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writes:HI everyone! So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year yesterday he came to ick me up from my job and he said hi to my bestfriend wh also woks with me. Anyway we went get food and during dinner he said " does your best friend have her period cause she her face broke out really bad" Now completely taken off gaurd I got really upset becuse why would he care to even think it'd be ok to mention somthing like that at dinner. His argument is he made an oservation and he just mentioned and my argument was there are somethings you think but you should never say. We got into a huge argument over this becuase he said that I should have just let it go. Now I feel guilty but i really wanna know was i wrong to get upset or is it ok for my boyfriend to want to discuss the possibility of my best friends priod during dinner? PLEASE HELP
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 Periods are definitely not a good subject to bring up at
dinner conversations,- and as for that, acne break ups aren't either.
ok, he just "made an observation" with no bad intentions, but manners are precisely mostly about knowing when to say what to whom, -
which your bf , apparently, knows absolutely nothing about. Teach him ASAP and the best that you can.
Also farting at a dinner table is " simply passing air " and done with no bad intentions- nevertheless is a obvious no-no !
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (24 January 2011):
Periods are definitely not a good subject to bring up at
dinner conversations,- and as for that, acne break ups aren't either.
ok, he just "made an observation" with no bad intentions, but manners are precisely mostly about knowing when to say what to whom, -
which your bf , apparently, knows absolutely nothing about. Teach him ASAP and the best that you can.
Also farting at a dinner table is " simply passing air " and done with no bad intentions- nevertheless is a obvious no-no !
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reader, Illithid +, writes (24 January 2011):
 I'd say it depends on the social group. I have several female friends that make no secret of their time of the month and just don't care. If someone asks, they'll be honest. If they're moody, they'll apologize and explain why. In my circle, it wouldn't be a big deal.
In your circle, it's very tacky to ask. Fair enough, now he knows that. But it was a casual observation that he shared. Some men talk too little and their women hate it. Your guy said too much, and you hate it. Cut the guy some slack and let him off the hook. No one can get through life without offending people unless he's silent.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 NO, it most certainly was NOT alright for him to bring up such a subject, not at dinner, or any time!
He might not have meant it to be, but in fact it was very rude, and tactless.......some things are just not appropriate to mention.....you might say that, then let it drop......
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 January 2011):
NO, it most certainly was NOT alright for him to bring up such a subject, not at dinner, or any time!
He might not have meant it to be, but in fact it was very rude, and tactless.......some things are just not appropriate to mention.....you might say that, then let it drop......
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 During dinner or not, your boyfriend was impolite. How bad you should react to that depends on your standards and what level you have this relationship on. But common courtesy is to not mention either period or breakout of anyone's face. That's backtalking. It's rude. When he says that this is what I hear: "your friend has a really bad breakout in her face! Let's discuss why!" Really? Next time he says something like that just tell him to ask her and not you if he dares. End of discussion, then start talking about something else.
Here's a rule for you guys: asking if someone has their period, NO MATTER why, is not acceptable. It's because too often you imply something rude by it, and women world wide are sick and tired of it. Just don't go there.
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