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writes: Hi, wondering if you could give me honest answers please. I cant seem to move on from my first love. There Ive said it. He was 12years my senior, split from his wife for 5years before i met him. He has a great family and i not only fell for him but got friendly with his siblings. The crux of our failure was when he didnt make an effort to make my 40th birthday lunch. He is a self employed man and he took a job on on my birthday although he knew i would be upset that he didnt make it, he said he couldnt just turn down the work. Fast forward a week and because there is a gig he really wants to go to he actually rearranges his work to fit in with his plans so he can go to the gig. After that i lost all faith in him, and he said i was trying to control him and that it wasnt his fault.Please could you tell me if i was right or wrong to feel upset that he couldnt rearrange his work to make it to my 40th yet could do it for a gig. I couldnt get over this and we split a year later. Im lonely was i the wrong?
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 August 2011):
It sounds like enough time has passed that it does not matter any more.
Don't go crawling back to him because you are lonely, though.
I can't really tell the right or wrong of this matter. All I can say is that you need to move on.
It just plain did not work out for whatever reason. You need to think of the next one.
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