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writes:I met a ma online. We chatted and he gave me his number. I didn't call until a week later. He wanted to meet that day I was reluctantly and wanted to wait until the following Saturday. He agreed but tried to send a facechat call. I declined. We met on Saturday and he asked for an account number so that he could pay a bill I told him no thank you. He kept saying I was his woman. Then he said the landlord said he had to be ou5 by the end of the week. That night when I went home he called and told me that he needed a room so I told him that I will call him in the morning. In the morning I found several rooms for really good prices based on the fact that he said he made 180k per year. I couldn't imagine he was living in the apartment that he was in. Anyway he said he found a room with 2 other men. He said i could had asked him to live with me. I was lost for words cause I had known him only a week but I helped him pack up his kitchen.Well one roommate had a fiance that is always there but he said he's not allowed to have women sleep over and when he came to my house he had to leave before 11:00 both times like in an urgency. Was I wrong for not allowing him to move in with me? I don't visit him because the roommates fiance made me feel uncomfortable. The we had some choiced words. I don't know what to do or say if he calls. Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all...I just was thrown back a bit by thinking this man needed help but my thinking were right on point with everything you all said...Thank you for helping me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 April 2016):
 I tried to get your bank info and move in with you within ONE week? I see red flags! And you are still with him?
Why settle for this liar?
A man who makes 180K a year doesn't need to move in with room mates.
If I were you, I'd tell him this isn't working for you and move on. I think he is full of crap.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 April 2016):
 “We met on Saturday and he asked for an account number so that he could pay a bill I told him no thank you. “
That moment right there should have told you that you are dealing either with a con man or a man who is just not right in the head.
Which sane person would allow someone they’ve known for ONE meeting to move in with them.
I hope he doesn’t know where you live. Block him, delete all contact information and be careful out there. You’re dealing with a con man or at best, a weirdo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2016): No you were not wrong! He has been trying to rush this relationship, if you can call it that, from the beginning. He wanted you to call right away, he wanted to meet right away, he wanted to have you two live together. Yikes! The roommate/fiancé makes you uncomfortable, even if there's another woman there, he's not allowed to have females over? And he has a curfew? Unless I'm missing something, is he in a group home? I can think of no reason for a curfew. And why would he have a hard time finding an apartment at 180,000 income? No, I'm thinking he doesn't make that much and wants to rush things so someone (you) will take care of him.
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