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writes: I feel completly insane. At the beginning, I really felt like being different is who I really am, but it’s so hard. I hate my ex best friend now. Ever since High School I’ve noticed that he hung out with so many of the wrong people. I didn’t want to get involved so I decided to stay away from him. Everyone that knew us when we were best friends thought that HE was the one who ditched me, but the truth is that I’m the person who chose to leave his life. Personally, I feel like I did that absolute right thing, but the mental conflict just kept growing and firing up in me. I try to move along and release all this conflict positively with music and athletics, and it helps sometimes, but it’s not enough. Did I do the right thing? Should I move along, or should I confront(talk to him) him first? I’m not sure what I need: Advice, clearance, comments - anything would help. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): Dear, you did do the right thing! You don't hate him, quite the opposite I think. Otherwise this problem with your friend wouldn't be weighing so heavily on your mind. Your friend made his own "choice" to hang with people you found somewhat questionable. Rather than contaminate your life by exposing yourself to these people, you made a sensible choice to back away from him. The fact is, we all must be held accountable for the choices we make in our life. He is making a poor choice and you, on the other hand, made the better choice which will ultimately determine the quality of you life. Now unless you know for a fact, he'll suffer some horrible demise with these people...I don't see where talking to him about it will change anything. If he was to approach you, then by all means, talk respectfully to him about it. But should he come to his senses, keep the 'door open' so to speak. Hopefully, over time he'll come to realize what a good buddy you were and he'll come find his way back.
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