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female
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36-40,
*eppuni
writes:One night during sophomore year of college I went to hang out with a group of friends. There was substantial drinking and marijuana involved. When I realised I was losing motor coordination, I knew it was time to go home. One of my friends said he'd walk me home, which he did. When I got to my dorm, he followed me in. Drunk, I didn't notice he was still with me until I had trouble unlocking my door and he helped. My memory of events is completely lacking here. The next morning I woke to find him in my bed. He woke up and asked if I wanted him to fuck me. I said no and asked him to leave. He kept pressing the issue. I said no and again, asked him to leave. He kissed and touched me and I tried moving away. Ultimately he got up, clothed himself and left.What happened that night and that morning? Was it rape that night? Sexual assault? All I know is that something was wrong.
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reader, yeppuni +, writes (17 October 2008):
yeppuni is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo clarify:1) I am studying in the United States2) I found two condoms in my rubbish bin the next day went I went to empty it
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): When did British universities start having sophomore years?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Firstly, I hope you go to a clinic to get checked out. You can address the guy later but most importantly is your health. Just make sure you are okay and a quick exam will ease your mind. It was wrong that the guy ended up in your bed but it was also wrong you let yourself lose so much control. However, life is always clearer in hindsight. I would suggest you ask the guy up front if anything happened because your thoughts were foggy. He won't be surprised if your thoughts were foggy and the worst he can do is lie or admit it. If he admits it or is obviously lying you can talk to a counselor for free at school to take the right legal and healing steps. I would also suggest a counselor just to clear your mind about the issue. Sorry this happened but make a better plan in the future if you are going to party like this.
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