A
female
age
41-50,
*onderful me
writes:hi i have been leagally married for 5yrs and been separated for 3yrs from him. before the separation my husband cheated on me and i tried forgiving him but it didn't work. so he moved out and he done had 2 babies since then. he told me to get my tubes tied becuz he didnt want no more kids so his last baby mama have been tripping, becuz she says hes never at home and hes with me. so how can i tell her that she needs to get over it becuz i have 2 kids with him so i aint going no where no time soon. she was the one paid for the divoce but he says he dont want to divorce me. but im not in love with him no more we are just friends becuz of our kids, but he thinks its a possiblilty that we can remarry and put these kids behind me. but i dont want him no more im in love with my boyfriend and want to start a family with him what is it a woman 2 do please advice?
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (17 October 2008):
 Girl, do yourself a favor and divorce him. My husband and I got married 4yrs ago and have been seperated for 2yrs. We have one 4yr old. He has one child with one girl, and get this a set of twins by another. I WILL NEVER REALLY TRUST HIM AGAIN!!! Even if we were to try restoring our marriage I know in my heart it wouldn't work because my heart is not with him anymore. He hurt me too bad. I forgive him and am willing to be his friend for our sons sake but as far as starting over NO!
The final answer is really up to you but I thought I would just share what I felt seeing as we have the same situation. My husband has vaguely tried to get back together, but he knows the answer to that.
Our husbands did the ultimate betrayal, not only did they share our d*ck, but they made babies outside of the marriage. That's just unacceptable. I mean do they respect us at all, and even on the same note do they respect theirselves. Your married but you have children with some one else. Not just one but TWO. Come on that's ridiculous.
Girlfriend I could see if I hadn't experienced it but I have and am still as I respond to this post. His set of twins were just born last week.
Moreover, why should you let have the chance to live a life with another woman and when he finds out shes not all he hoped her to be, then he runs back to you 2yrs later. And you will always have to think about if you give the guy up thats there for you now for your husband and your husband gets you right back where he wants you who's to say he wont do it again, or even run back to the other baby mama? Best Hopes
TF
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