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writes:I'm in my early 20s (male) and this happened 7 years ago:so, in case you did not know, in middle east classrooms (which are of same sex), students who reach sexual maturity faster will molest others by force, I was the victim of this, i had no idea what was happening to me. Also, a good family friend (male) of ours who was 6 years older than me was touching me for the previous 4 years.He was a nice person though, and he is married now.I did not know anything about sex untill i came to USI'm straight and have never had a relationship and very afraid of making any physical contact with anybody including my family, do you have any advice? remember my family lives in middle east so there is no chance I will tell them! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): My goodness, YES you were molested!
Try the Adult Survivors of Child Abuse
http://www.ascasupport.org/
Their website says:
"ASCA is an innovative and effective support program designed specifically for adult survivors of physical, sexual, and/or emotional child abuse or neglect. The program was designed to support and assist survivors of child abuse, irrespective of their financial situation, in moving on with their lives."
I send you my best wishes and hope that you are able to overcome the aftermath of your sad experiences, to become a fulfilled and happy adult who is able to love and let yourself be loved. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Aw, hunny I'm sorry. That must have been such a horible experience for you.
I can see why you'd find socialising so difficult, especially contact.
I don't know about the education system in the US, but here in Ireland if we go to college or University there is free councilling to anyone who needs or wants it. Is there this option where you come from?
I think that councilling would be the best option for you.
I have experience with councillors so if you have any questions about them or concerns I might be able to answer them for you. Just mail me, ok hunny.
Emivia. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much for your reponses,basically they(there were 2 different students at different times) grab my privates and play with it or force me to grab theirs and whenever i refused they would take my hand (i was small kid back then) and put it down their pants (that is as far as i am going to describe it)I also suffered an extremley severe acne for last 6 years, since i came to US. I don't have much money so I was on antibiotics initially and then accutane, which is much more expensive, for last 7 month at 80 mg/day (so, if you know anything about accutane you know those numbers are high), the acne messed with my self-esteem obviosly and combine with my past, they really messed me up emotionally.Now, everytime i make a contact with someone such as putting my hand on their back and etc. I am very aware of it and i feel as if i am causing them pain or making them uncomfortable.I will be working on my Ph.D through a scholarship and I have never kissed or had a relationship with any woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Do you think you could tell us what happened in your class room. Sorry hunny, but it's hard to advise you when we don't have no idea what happened. I know that this is hard for you.
As for the "good family friend". Did he touch you with out permission or consent? I take it you meant in yur private area?
When did you go to the US?
I think that you should see a councillor, so that you can talk about your worries and what happened to you. It could help you clear your mind and come to terms with what has happened. It may also help you understand exactly what did happen.
Hopefully you'll be able to get past your fears and the pain these experiences have caused you, move on and live a normal life.
Good Luck.
Emivia. x
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reader, evas +, writes (22 June 2008):
I don't know what your beliefs are, but Jesus was the only thing that got me through those times. When I was about your age a girl friend convinced me to come forward about it. With men in general, it's tough to just come forward and say that. HA! I went kinda overboard with it. I suggest you find a good Godly counciler or friend. You need to heal from this and talking to someone is a part of that. Forgiving those that did it and yourself (because it's not your fault) is another. This incident that happened to you is not who you are, it's just trash that needs to be taken out. God bless you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): If he touched you without your consent in any way that you did not find appropriate, then yes, you were molested.
You might try talking to your doctor if you trust him/her. (S)he might be able to refer you to a counselor if you need to talk about this with someone. In the meantime, remember that what happened to you was no fault of your own and try to move on with your life
Good luck
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