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writes:Ok, so i was a bit bored the other day and decided to look through the guy im seeing's facebook not to check up on him or anythin just out of curiosity really. So anyway we've been seein each other since the beginning of the year but we started hangin out and that last november and i found on his facebook comments from around that time suggestin he was maybe hangin out with another girl too. he had status' at the time saying things like 'cant stop thinkin about someone' and 'is sick of doing the chasing all the time' then finally 'you no what you can do1' this might just be my imagination runnin away with me but i have a feeling he liked this girl and she maybe lost interest in him so he moved on to me and it really hurts to think i might have been second best and this other girl might have been the one he really wanted.since we started seein each other properly, things have been good we tlk everyday we even recently went on holiday together however he still hasnt mentioned anythin about us becoming official so im starting to think maybe he doesnt want me as a girlfriend he just wants a bit of fun but thats not what i want. please help as i dont know how to express my feelings to him as i dont want to push him away or him to feel like im pressuring him!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 The best solution I can offer you is to ask..Next time you're at dinner, hanging out ask him," So we have been seeing each other since the beginning of the year, I'm a little confused as to what our status is? Boyfriend girlfriend?" Somewhere along those lines. Ask him to clarify. It's possible he's one of those ones who don't like titles and just assumed you were boyfriend/girlfriend or he is seeing you but keeping his options open. Seeing/dating is a very grey area, don't let yourself fall into that. Since the year is almost over, it's about high time he decided to define what exactly you guys are.
P.S. Don't go poking around his Facebook looking to find something..you went all the way back to last November, I doubt that chick is still in the picture.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Does he call you his girlfriend? If so, you're official. As you get older, people don't "make it official" like they did in middle school or high school.
Even if he was interested in someone else, that doesn't mean he's not interested in you. Don't dig for problems. Don't get jealous over something that never was.
Have you ever dated before? If you have, then that means he wasn't your first choice either. You dated people in your past because they were your first choice at that time. This is no different. You are his first choice right now or he wouldn't be with you.
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