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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up about 6 months ago after being together for 6 months, but I can't stop thinking about him. I'm 17 and he is 20. I lost my virignity to him after being together for 2 months, it felt right at the time and I don't regret it - we both loved each other (or so he said, I did believe it though). We called the relationshop off because we didn't see enough of each other - I was in a boarding school, whilst he was in university. I just can't work out if he was using me or not. When I was with him I felt so happy and truly believed that he felt the same, but when I was not with him, which was more often than not, I don't think he cared about me at all. He really was not the ideal boyfriend. He had been arrested twice - once for drink driving and another time for drug dealing but luckily only got a suspended sentence. I knew this when I first began to date him, but he made me feel so speical that I put it to the back of my mind. My friends all think he's a jerk, and it hurts me when they say this, because this is the guy that I lost my virginity to. Even though we both broke the relationship off, I still feel we could have done more to save it. But now, we are both back home and live about 10 mins away from each other a part of me wants to try and get back together with him, even though I know deep down that he is wrong for me, but I think I love him, or is it just lust. Could someone please give me tips on how to get over this guy (i have not been with anyone since) or tell me if he was just using me or was there some, or if I should give it another go? Also was he using me or did he actually love me? These are questions I want to ask him, but am too scared of the answers.
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (17 June 2007):
 If u dont ask u will never know hun, follow ur heart if u want him back then giv it a try x
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 you're too young, you deserve someone better who would love you unconditionally, respect yourself and all the good things will follow, your life shouldnt revolve around his.
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reader, 2dangconfused  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 more often than not, second chance relationships; turn out the same as the 1st..
i have been in EXACTLY the same situation as you, age and all, but there is no way your getting over this guy anytime soon! i lost my viginity to my 1st love 18months ago. and even tho i have been in a great relationship for the past 12months, i still think about him everyday.
this is most likely what will happen with you.
all i can say is, find someone who respects you and makes you feel so gr8 that you just forget about this other guy.
sorry if thats not much help babe.
good luck!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (17 June 2007):
 the thing is u will never forget ur first love or the guy u lost it to so no matter what u do if u meet him again in 20 years time u will still have that connection. u r asking for closure which means u have all these questions and no matter what u do u cant get them out of ur head maybe u should ask him these questions only he nos the answer and it will help u to get over him coz u r right u can do so much better than him but u have to ask to get over him there are no special ways its the way u want to get over hi but im glad u r not like some girls who get drunk to get over the ex or make him jelious be 'accidently' sending i love u to him and than saying 'opps wrong person'. but whatever u choe i hope u feel comfortable about it and not doin coz he wants it if u don't feel comfortable u leave or u tell him no good uck xx
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