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writes:Hie,Recently i started seeing a guy who lived next door to me. We would watch movies together and have a couple of drinks every so often.I soon began to develop strong feelings for this man and asked if he wanted to go steady with me. It turned into a big fight when he said he didnt want to lose me but he had too much going on in his life for a relationship. I later on appologized because i understood he was trying to work and go to college at the same time but so am i. Anyway we continued to be intimate and i fell in love with him. One day he just stopped calling me. I called him twice and he didnt pick up the phone and never returned my calls. I still love this guy, i have never felt this way about anybody before. Now that i am not with him i feel like a part of me is missing, i am so sad and all i want is him. I am on holiday right now for two months, i dont know if i should call or email him, i dont even know what to say. Or should i just wait to go back home to see him? I want to be with him, i just have that feeling that he is my soul mate and i am so ready to fight for him. What do i do? How do i fight this battle? please help me and dont tell me to leave it alone because that isnt an option for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): I agree with DrPsych, you must try and move on,
The good news is though that if you use your time to move on and be independant and be "busy" yourself,
this will make you feel a hell of a lot better you will start to value yourself more and you will find a good two way relationship and hopefully think of this guy next door less and less,
it will take time allow yourself to grive take care
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 You cannot fight this battle. You haven't got control over this man or his feelings towards you. As painful as that sounds he has been honest with you - he doesn't want the fulltime relationship you aspire to. Men knock your door down when they are that into you and will make time in their busy schedules when they want to. He is ignoring you now out of embarrassment as he knows how you feel and doesn't reciprocate. In some ways he is being cruel to be kind - he knows what you want and you aren't prepared to settle for no-strings or a friendship so it would be cruel of him to continue to see you under those circumstances. You just have to leave him alone as pursuing the man isn't going to help the situation. You feel bad at the moment because you are on holiday and have lots of time to dwell on things. You should try to keep yourself busy and get over him.
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