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writes:Hey okie so I have a male friend, we had a fling over two years ago (though we never had sex he wanted to go all the way but I kinda stopped things) Anyway we never dated he didn't go out with me because of my self-conciousness and paranoia, but after sometime we did make friends again. My friend has had 2 g/fs since then I never met either of them. When I stay over my friends house I sleep in his bed with him, we always sleep close etc. The last time I slept over I had a long tshirt on and my underpants, and we were sleeping like spooning (except he did not have his hand around me) I felt him move his knees up closer to me at one point, I just thought it was okie as were friends his probs just comfortable, but like one point when we were sleeping close he pushed me foward/away from him by my ass, and suddenly turned over so he had his back to my back, I was confused lol? He layed on his front for a while too. When we were sleeping in a simlar posistion again he pushed my back away. But at one point he had his knee pressing against my crutch and when he moved a bit hed like move it back to that posistion :/.At one point in the night when I was facing him it looked like he had a boner but I'm not sure as he had skinny jeans on, but there was a bulge, and I saw a bulge when the covers were over him coming from that area, :/ Basically I'm confused as to if I offended him/he was repulsed or if he was just trying to conceal something.btw hes 20 so its not like 15 year old kid that cant control it (im half a year younger) Reply to this Question
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reader, Cherriepie  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Hey Hunny...Im sorry but I dont understand your question or how your realtionship is even based on. You say your friends and you are in bed with this guy, but your not fucking? Well call call me a slut, but if Im in bed with a guy, we are all alone and we're friends, we are fucking. I dont just "hang out in bed"...i just dont have the time for that. Theres no cunfusion with me....if your in bed with the guy you should be fucking. Like I said I dont understand this type of thing because I dont do it. I can hang out with my boyfriend in bed, but its ok...we have sex when we want to, there's never confusion about it.
But with a guy who is just a friend. We can hang out and do things together, but if we get in bed together, were not just going to sleep....
What i see is the confusion is in YOU not him... If you want to have sex with him stop playing in bed and start PLAYING in bed. Of course has an erection in the middle of the night...he wants to fuck you, but you have to give him the consent.
My thing is...if you dont want him to fuck you why are you in bed sleeping with him? Either you stop "hanging out" in his bed or you just fuck him....When there is no in-between there is never any confusion. You just have to clarify things in your own head. I hope this helps!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 April 2008):
I think his movements while you two were sleeping together just that- movements of his sleep. I dont think they suggest he was uncomfortable or repulsed. Most people move in there sleep. So if he turned away from you, that doesnt suggest anything bad, it could just be that he was tired of sleeping on the other side. I know personally that when I sleept I dont stay on the one side all night. I always turn over to different sides and I've been known to push my bf away as well but then later on snuggle right up. I'm not aware I do any of this. He may of even been having a bad dream when he pushed you with his knee.
As for the erection bit, well that is very possible!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 April 2008):
The reason he turned over in his sleep may have been that he was hot, may have been that his leg had gone to sleep, or maybe just that he wanted to turn over.
People move in their sleep.
The fact you are looking so far into this says more about you than him. If you are not comfortable sleeping next to this guy then don't do it.
And yes, 20 year old guys get erections in their sleep too, it's not a choice, it just happens.
Just relax and sleep, you'll feel better for it.
Good Luck!! xx
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