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writes:I am a Fetish model and i had a shoot with another girl.I had to kiss her during the shoot,my boyfriend was there and he was okay with that.For a long time he has wanted me to have a sexual encounter with a girl while he was there.I have considered it but never went through with it.Anyway after the shoot ,the three of us went to the pub,i was drunk and i normally do not ever drink,never.I went to the loo to do my make-up and the girl followed me in,we were talking for a while and just as i was about to go back to the table i kissed her on the cheek to say thanks for making me feel comfortable during the shoot earlier,she started to kiss me,i wanted to stop but didnt seeem able to,i felt like it was my fault as i had led her on by kissing her cheek,it didnt turn me on,i have never been able to say 'no' even when i want to and this has led me into some really nasty situations..We kissed for a while,then i said i wanted to go back out.My boyfriend knew what had happened and i told him,i couldnt ever lie to him.I am devastated that i have hurt him , i have never felt this way about anyone before,i would do anything to take it all back.He is so hurt and its breaking our hearts.He says he doesnt want to stop seeing me and he says he feels partly responsible as he kept encouraging me to get off with another girl but he was supposed to be there when it happened.I do not want him to take any blame for this,it is not his fault,it is my fault.He is so hurt...How can i make him happy again? and how do we ever get over this ?
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (23 April 2008):
 I’m sorry this first bit isn’t to-do with the question but,
That anonymous male reader, you are incredibly sexist, come up to the times it is no more a woman’s place just to be in the kitchen! And also I don’t see why she would be supervised all the time!!
Just tell your boyfriend, that he wanted you to do more things with her, so its not your fault he wasn’t there!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, MarvelousGurl245  +, writes (23 April 2008):
OMG that is sooo funny girl your BF ain't jealous at the fact you kissed the girl he's upset at the fact that he wasn't in the situation to either watch or participate in the kissing.Well anyway listen there's nothing more than a great turn on for guys to see girls kissing another girl (or more deep sexual activities).Anyway don't beat yourself over this if i was blunt i would say to have a threesome but it's better not to i know by some way if you saw your BF making out (again or having deeper sexual activities)with this girl you would get a bit more jealous cuz you might either think that he enjoys it more with her.Anyways i bet he wouldn't like it either if that has happend with you and her (also have a threesome is not the solution for this threesomes are of some risk if the guy or girl falls for the other participant in this)which can be very hurtful.Anyway enough about that just sit down and talk to your boyfriend don't beat yourself up with it maybe he will tell you the truth about either that he wasn't there to witness it OR! he was really jealous about that but if he considered it "Ok" that you kissed her once it's just a kiss nothing else.In this situation he pissed that he wasn't there to see it so don't worry anyways have a good talk with him.
sorry i typed sooo long well anyway goodluck!
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Your boyfriend is the one with the problem. He sounds very immature. When i kiss a girl, my guy never gets jealous like that. He knows me, and he knows I love him, he never pouts with me about things like that. Seriously, I dont think you did anything wrong, you are Not to blame...he just has to grow up! Give him a little time for things to heal, the poor buy is just being a sensitive baby now, so he needs to be treated like a baby. Make love with him a few nights and he'll get over this quickly!
Maybe you should have a threesome with this girl...and let him get to kiss her too to even the score...just a suggestion..lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): First of all its not your fault, its your boyfriends fault for letting you out of the kitchen unsupervised. I do not approve of your job, it is not womans work. I hope you cooked dinner before you went by the way. I think that the only way you can make it up to him is to offer him a threesome with this whore, i mean woman, although i do not condone premarital sex unless i am involved. So stop your whinging and make it up to your man, as soon as you have cleaned the house and washed his clothes, especially his underwear by hand.
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reader, Katy-Conners +, writes (23 April 2008):
 It Seems Hes Only Okay With This If Its How HE Wants It. You Know That It Didnt Mean Anything, And If He Doesn't Believe Then I Agree With The Girl Above.Best Of LuckKaty xxx
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Are the pair of you making a mountain out of a mole hill?
Most men would give their right arm (well, perhaps not, but you know what I mean) to have a fetish model as a girlfriend!
He's upset, quite simply, because even though you did what he had been asking you to do for so long, he wasn't part of it. He's not upset that a girl kissed you; he's upset that it didn't involve him.
Don't think that doing what he asked, having a "sexual encounter" with a girl while he watches (or takes part), will solve the problem. It won't. Unless you really want to do it then DON'T. There are potentially so many emotional complications that it's just not worth it. There's a fair chance that either he will say "you enjoyed that better than you enjoy it with me", which will, of course be "wrong", or he will acccuse you of not trying to make it "real". It's not going to work - not now, and probably would have led to the same result before anyway.
How can you make him happy? Well, this is a sexual jealousy thing much more than a relationship thing, and sex is the answer. What else does he like? If you're a fetish model then I'm sure there must have been parts of photoshoots he's seen that he particularly liked and that don't involve a third person? Find something REALLY special for him on a one-to-one basis - and make him forget everything else.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (23 April 2008):
 You only kissed her for heaven's sake!!
I think the only reason that your B/F is so upset is because he didnt see you do it, otherwise it would have been OK. If he lets something as daft as that get to him I would think twice about being with him, and definatly dont sleep with another girl just to please a man.
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