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*easidechick22
writes:Hi everyone,About a week ago I posted a question about my next door neighbour saying that I had a bit of a crush on him. Well, about 5 days ago I had a genuine problem with my heating and hot water system and as I had no-one around to help at the time, I thought I would go round to ask him for help! He came straight round to help and spend about half an hour trying to get it to work. Luckily he fixed it for me but before that he even offered to phone his friend to help! He was really kind and chatty, although I think he is a little shy as he wouldn't look at me directly without turning away quickly. He asked my name and was friendly to my daughter. Could this mean he likes me or was he just trying to help out a neighbour? The next day he waved to me passing in his van but I haven't seen him since and don't know if he likes me! Advice please! :)
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reader, seasidechick22 +, writes (26 October 2008):
seasidechick22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, I get the feeling you think he was just being friendly. Never mind, thanks for your help! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): We can't tell you if he likes you in the way you want him to. But if he was willing to be a perfect gentlemen and come over to help you, I can say he was being a nice neighbor and probably liked you as a friend and neighbor as well. Men are different this way, many of them like to take their time getting to know someone. It's a slow process. When a female comes at them assertively, many of them will run the other way.
Why don't you use this good deed he did for you, to make him something nice...baking something yummy (cookies, a cake) with a gracious thank you card, for the help he gave you.. is something he may appreciate. You do this without expecting anything back. And you do everything in little steps. He has a life beyond those four walls of his..he may even have a gf, his own family/friends, his own hobbies and interests.! The key is to get to know him subtely as a friend, first. So don't pine away, don't be overly obvious or aggresive in this chase, and don't get fantasizing these 'big plans and expectations' for this guy. What he might find really attractive about you is: you have a fulfilling life, with friends, family, that you are nice, that you smile and you have this awesome life, even if he's not in it. Now that will get his attention. So get out there and have fun with other people. One day, you might just get a surprise. He may show up at your doorstep, with a plate of cookies, for you. That might be a first! lol (kidding!) Just keep your smarts and wits about you, get to know him really, really well, especially if you have a young daughter. You have to protect and priorize here, too. But smile, stay positive, stay happy...and good luck!
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