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writes:Ok, so ive been out on a few dates with this guy i met about a year ago.. we've kept in contact since then..emails, texts etc. and bumped into each other on nights out every couple of weeks, we've ended up sleeping in the same bed 3 times after house parties, nights out etc..but we've never had sex as i wouldnt let it go that far.. but nothing really ever came of it until last wkend we were both out in clubs and both drunk..long story short i ended up back at his place and we had sex.. he was really sweet and gentle and all that but has not been in contact since then... do you think that it's because we didn't have sex all those other times that he's finally got it out of his system and maybe that was all he wanted in the 1st place?? the most annoying thing is i'm starting 2 have real feelings for him! dont know whether to contact him or not?? help!
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 Just my opinion here, so here it goes. It doesnt sound like this guy really has intentions of having a relationship with you. It's always good to be clear on these things before sleeping with someone, as many have learned the hard way.
Whether or not you decide to call him is entirely up to you. If you call him, I would be straight foward with him. Ask him what his intentions are. Does he want to date someone? Have a casual or serious relationship? Is he interested in you or would he like to keep it as it is? You should find out where this is going or if it is going anywhere at all unless you are prepared to forget about anything serious or even semi-serious with this person.
Take Care and Good Luck!
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reader, askTasha.  +, writes (16 September 2008):
The fact that he kept in touch after the first 3 times of sharing the same bed shows promise. The best thing to do is ask him out right guys dont take hints too well and would rather just be asked out right. Just send him a nice friendly text just stating that you had a nice time at the weekend and wandered if he fancied a night out again sometimes soon, suggest something simple and relaxed where your not likly to get drunk, such as the pictures or for a meal. That way you'll know if he is still interested and get to spend time together with out the influence of alchole.
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