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writes:Dear friends I need your advice. I met a guy when I went to visit my sister cause she had a baby. He was my brother in law s friends. We didn't really talk that much at that time because we didn't really know eachother. Once he left the hospital I ask my sister if he was single and she said he was engaged. And I said nevermind. After that my sister came to my city with her husband for her baby baptism. He came with them and we got a chance to really get to know eachother at the baptism. I knew he was engaged and I didn't e petted anything. But the way we were looking at each h other was somethingHe texted me from their hotel if I want to hangout and I said maybe tomorow. The next day we went out and it was around 9 pm and there was so much chemistry between us. His wedding was a week away and he told me he likes me and I said same thing We kiss and had sex. It was great but there was a problem. My brother in law got upset at me after they left be a use he saw me when I went to get him from the hotel. Everything went wrong after that. He didn't call me for a week and he said he would call a week a go and he didn't. I ask him why and he said he forgot. Please I miss him what should I do did he do it just for sex. I need help is he gonna call me it's been a week no phone call or text. I know he is married now aND it's only been two weeks since he got married.what is the problem? I can't call him cause I deleted his number because I fee l hurt. Please give me advice what I should do.
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reader, Foxxy1 +, writes (2 November 2014):
Wow I can't believe I'm reading this. Not sure if you are really serious. I'm beginning to think many women confuse chemistry to lust. That word chemistry shouldn't even be used in the context of a ready to be married man. You seriously have no remorse for the woman he married who has no idea she's about to be in a marriage with problems.
Why did you allow this to happen to you? Please forget you ever met him asyou are sure to run into him again and he's going to avoid you. Emotional after a one night stand is not too good for your heart. Let it go! You both were wrong. Even if he divorced his wife and came after you he will never love you.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (1 November 2014):
Of course he only wanted sex. He had one last piece of strange with you and then married the woman he loves.
You made this bed, now lie in it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 November 2014):
 What do you need help with? I suppose you would feel fear of being caught and would retreat from family gatherings. That's what he is doing. Trying to cover his ass and forget about what happened. It would be so impractical to expect this affair to be an ongoing thing since there are family ties. You are not in a position to ask for more than sex.
"It's only been two weeks since he got married. What is the problem?"
I don't even understand what two weeks has to do with it.
His brother in law probably sensed something and warned him to back off and cut contact. You should forget about him and try to understand within you, why you think it's okay to sleep with an engaged man.
I think the focus should be how to carry on and remained composed in family gatherings. Not how to get your brother in law's friend to miss you and have a relationship with you. That's asking for the impossible. You fell in love and you bonded with him after sex while for him it's just a night of fun. You are letting your heart override all common sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2014): He is married! He used you for sex and that's all. .. I feel sorry for the woman he married, he cheated on her just before their wedding day! And you don't even feel guilty?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2014): Of course it was all about sex. It was a one night stand with an engaged man who cheated on his fiancé.
Asking, "what's the problem" is mind blowing. The problem is he is now a married man, and you should cease all contact with him. Did you expect him to call off his wedding, or for you to become his side chick once he married? If anyone would feel hurt it would be his new wife.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 November 2014):
This is a no Brainer: you need to forget he exists and move on.
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