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writes:I met this guy on an online dating site about three weeks ago. Since the first date, he has been great. He always followed up and made plans after the date for the next one, offered to pay for everything (even though I tried to contribute as much as he'd allow) and even introduced me to his friends and coworkers. What I really liked about his was the also never pushed for sex. We started making out around the third date, and he was very careful to not come on too aggressive. He also took a short trip to visit his parents and had his sister visit him, so I know that he has good family values and is a decent person. After about nine dates, we were watching a movie at my apartment and ended up having sex. Although technically we never had the relationship discussion, I can't expect anything, after such consistent behavior from him for three weeks, I figured he'd at least follow up or likes me to some extent rather than just holding out for sex. But it's been two days and I haven't heard anything from him. Should I just forget about him?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Hmmm, after a date he's got a 3 day window to call..Now, unless he's got a death in the family then he should be calling you back. So you had sex once before discussing a relationship, don't worry..I usually bang them once before we're official just to make sure we're sexually compatible.
I'd do as Dirtball said and shoot him a simple "Hi", then wait for him to contact you back. Give it another day and still nothing, then I'd move on. But for now let's give him the benefit of the doubt and one more day.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Well, it can't hurt to send him a quick message. Even just a quick "Hi." Especially because he's done all the initiating, you want to express some initiative too. I know I get turned off when girls don't initiate some of the contact too. It makes me wonder why I'm not even worth a call.
Don't walk away until you at least give him a call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have not tried to call him. So far he's done all the initiating, so I figured he's comfortable with that? He seems very "masculine" to me in that sense.
And I don't really feel comfortable calling a guy after we had sex for the first time. I've always waited for them to get in touch with me and if they don't know, I figured that they are not that into me.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 November 2010):
You never said if you tried to call him or not. Have you tried to get in touch and he hasn't returned said calls? Maybe he's wondering the same about you. He's done all the chasing so far so he may be testing your interest by seeing if you'll call this time.
Two days isn't that long between calls. Something might have come up that made him really busy. It's hard to say but if you felt a connection, then why just give up right away? That line of thinking makes little sense to me.
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