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36-40,
anonymous
writes:A few days ago I broke up with my boyfriend of six years. I know it is an impossible question but how do I know if it was a good idea or a terrible mistake?In the lead up I was very torn. Couldn't handle some things the way they were but wanted more than anything to stay with him.The issues at the time seemed big. Significant sexual mismatch and him being uneasy about me making friends and having a social life (to the extent that I didn't very much). Both seem more trivial now.I miss him. I miss bieng around him, living with him, talking with him, touching him. All I keep thinking about is rushing back to his side. I think of all the wonderful things we did together that will otherwise be gone.Then I think of the reasons I left which were breaking me and which he seemed unwilling to compromise on.Man I am stuck. I just don't know what to do. My heart weeps and then my mind flits from one line of thought to another and then back again.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 When things are bad in a relationship that's all we seem to see, the bad things, when the relationship comes to an end our mind seems to throw all the good things in to confuse us.
I would give yourself a little time to work out what is and isn't right for you.
You will find the right answer if you just stop and give it time to settle and become clearer to see.
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