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writes:Hi guys I'm in a spot of bother with my current situation. I have been interested in this girl for a while and was thunk of asking her out then just today a different girl asked me out. I said I will think about it because I wasn't sure about what to do. So my question is do I go out with this girl or say no and ask out the girl I like with obviously a possibility of rejection? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you and she asked me to the cinema and I said yes, I now really want to go out with her do u think I should kiss her there or not. I was thinking of saying 'I have been restraining myself for this whole time and there is no longer anything stopping me from kissing you besides you,'
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Sorry I dont understand why you will get stick from your friends? Do they not like this girl that has asked you out? Or do they know about your crush and will think badly of you for going out with someone else?
At the end of the day, it is your choice who you go out with and your friends (if they are good friends) will be happy for you as long as you are happy. So if you say yes to this girl that has asked you out, then thats great, you have a girlfriend! If they start taking the piss well they are just jealous (although I cant really understand why you think they will give you stick?) and the novelty will wear off after a week or so.
At your age it is fun to take the piss out of your friends, that is what all teen boys do, but if they see that you actually like this girl and you are happy together, and if it lasts more than 2 weeks, then they will get bored of giving you stick about it and move onto something else to poke fun at.
Dont worry about your friends - just do what makes you happy. And if that means saying yes to this girl, then go for it and enjoy getting to know her better!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the advice the girl I was gunna ask out is ignoring me and I actually now want to go out with the girl who asked me. How do I deal with the stick I will get from friends
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 February 2011):
Well do you like the girl who has asked you out? Do you want to go out with her?
Or do you not like her and only like the other girl?
What you need to do is this - decide who you like the most and stick to that decision. You cannot date this girl who has asked you out purely because you are scared of rejection, that is not fair on the girl. She has been incredibly brave to ask you out, she clearly really likes you so if you go out with her, you better like her A LOT otherwise you will just end up hurting her.
If you like the other girl more and only want to be with her, then just ask her out. Yes you might get rejected, but it is better to find out how she feels than spend your time wondering what could have been.
Try and be fair to the girl who has asked you out - dont go out with her if you are not into her, that is very nasty and you should not go out with anyone unless you really like them because you will hurt people and that is very wrong.
So decide who you like most and who you want to be with - and that should make your decision for you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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