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writes:I have recently split up with my previous girlfriend since she grew to be controlling and possesive towards me, we had an arguement which ended up me leaving her. We are now friends which is'nt much an issue.BUTMy sister and my previous partner was close friends (met each other through me introducing to the family) and my sister was trying her hardest to get us back together but i didnt want that for two reasons:1# it has happened 4 times and i couldnt keep reliving the same break-up again.2# i like somebody else.I havent told my previous partner about me liking another person since she is already obviously upset and i dont want to hurt her so the least i can do is be there as a friend and help you to get over me.But this other girl who i like, also likes me, and has asked if i wanted to get with her. I said yes, but there are complications which she agreed with so we are just seeing each other. (sort of like, a boarder line between extremely close friends and actuall partners.)The problem is, this other girl is my sisters friend. she is age:15 and 16 in september of this year. I obviously considered her age etc. and she was fine with that also.But my sister is a little bit protective and i KNOW she would do something to her friend(the girl who i am semi-with) which is not what i want to happen.What should me and my sisters friend do? We want to tell my sister so that it is over and done with but we have both spoke about it and think that telling her after she has turned age:16 would be best.need help :(thankyou loads.
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reader, lsickle  +, writes (12 August 2010):
well u being happy should be your first concern. This could start a pattern of your sisters needs coming before yours and when it comes to your love life your needs have to come first. You have to tell your sister that you love her but you also have to be able to live your life. Be sure to tell her that going after someone you are seeing will hurt your relationship. If she pulls the what u dont love me or something just hold your ground and flip it and say thats how i feel and that you are trying to be happy so why cant you be happy with me. Hopefully this gives you something to work with be easy dude family and relationships dont always mix.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Sometimes we need to make mistakes and take risk to progress. Its your life and not your sisters you should do what you feel is right.
If you like your sisters friend then get talking with her more if you both click then ask her out on a date.
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reader, ShexiRawwrrMew +, writes (12 August 2010):
how about looking for someone the same age group as you and you might find a strong relationship obviously the other girl was controlling as she was too imature and will deffinatly be what you are heading yourself into now if you go witht the 15 year old cumon there are loads of fish in the see. why have you got to find someone so close to the family think of how stressfull it will be with your sister and your sister also being so close with your ex
try find someone else and be happy
Rebecca x
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