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writes:Hi, well I'll cut to the chase, I'm gay, in love with my bf to pieces. only my best m8s kno, but I wanna tell other m8s but just cant find the right time/place/way to bring it up. and also i honestly have no idea of how my m8s wud react to it. any help? ta v muchx Reply to this Question
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reader, AxelVIII  +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Well, If i were you I'd just ask them "what do you think about gay people honest to god? do you think it's wrong? or do you even care at all?". I am soooooo into gay people and I'm a bi so yea :P. and if you just don't want to ask them what they think just be straight forward. if they don't understand and bully you about it just stop being friends witht hem. people who actually think that gay people are so wrong and actually care aren't worth being friends.
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reader, NightLad +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Hi there,
I can sympathise with your situation. I’ve known that I like guys ever since I can remember. If it is a “phase” then it started in the womb and hasn’t stopped yet! ;) When I was around your age I started telling my closest friends that I am gay. They all took it quite well and accepted me. True friends always do.
However, I waited a few years before coming out to everyone, including my family. It is vitally important for you to have a strong support system in place.
I think you may have a better idea of how your friends will act than you know. After all, they are your friends. In my experience Like Attracts Like; that is to say, people generally befriend the same type of people they are. If your friends are worthy of your friendship than they will continue to see you as the same person you’ve always been. If they don’t, then they were not worth your friendship in the first place. It may hurt to lose some people you thought were your friends, but that is the reality of it. If it should happen, think of it as cleaning out the old to make room for the new.
I recommend you take on a policy of telling your friends if they ask or if a situation comes up where you need to mention your sexuality. This takes the burden of orchestrating an official ‘coming out’ to each of them, and will drive home the message that your sexual orientation is just another part of who you are.
You can also ask your friends who know what they think of letting some of the others in on it. Maybe they know some of the people better and can offer you more insights.
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): Don't tell your friends just yet.
You're at the age where people will make crude, homophobic jokes, probably because they worry about being gay themselves.
You yourself may not be certain that you're gay, even if you are dating a guy right now. It could change in the future, sexuality is not a set thing.
Just enjoy life and don't stress about it - it's a personal issue, not an issue to get worked up about.
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