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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I'm starting to feel used monetarily. I want to talk to him about it, but I'm unsure of how to start the conversation. My question is how do you start a conversation that addresses this issue. Reply to this Question
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reader, imaginary friend  +, writes (3 April 2009):
well perhaps you could just discuss ,like you want to start saving money for something or other and that your only willing to contribute 50% to the household expenses utilities ect the quickest way to find out if someone is using you for something is quit supplying the something or at least suspend it and see how they reacPr
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (2 April 2009):
 First you lock the pantry, then you cut the purse strings, Then ask for the key. He will come to the bargaining table.
We really don't have enough information for a better answer to this problem. There is a general problem among young men in America. They are out looking for a free ride. They expect their girl friends to feed them and keep them in the latest games while they work minimum hours at a part time jopb or are completely unemployed. My daughter had a boy do this to her. Finally she got tired of his whining and kicked him out. But not until she ran out of money and things she could sell to keep him happy.
The best simple advice I have heard on this is to stop feeding him (lock the pantry). Soon you will find out if he is a "man" willing to make commitments and pay his way, or if he is a "boy" just looking to play.
I hope this helps point you in the right direction. If you follow up with more information I'll be glad to reply again.
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