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writes:I need help on this one. My boyfriend of a few years left me almost a year ago now and relocated to his home city. I am now seeing someone on a fairly steady basis but I will be flying out to his home city tomorrow for a two day work related conference and I am apprehensive about it because I want to resist the impulse to contact him while I am there. I DO have to take my cell phone but what was wondering if anyone has any strategies that have worked for them that have helped them to resist the impulse to call someone who really should not be called. Reply to this Question
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (8 May 2006):
 Delete his number if you never want to be tempted to call him.
Or delete his number but give a copy of it on a piece of paper to a friend for safekeeping so when you are tempted before you can call him, you need to talk to him/her and explain why you want it. This will stop spur of the moment calls or drunken late night calls or "accidental" calls and make you think about why you really want to call him.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (8 May 2006):
 I know the ideal solution...DELETE his number from your cell phone...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006): Stay sober!If you decide to call him when you are rationally thinking then at least it won't be an embarrising mistake that you'll regret.I guess the other things you could do though is go through the reasons for why you broke up. Remember he left you. Maybe he is in a relationship now, or maybe he misses you? Think what you have now. Would you like to get back with him. What about the long distance if you did start seeing each other - would that be a big problem. Go with what feels right, but again with what I said, make sure that if you do decide to call him, it's not because you are drunk and can't think straight!
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