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writes:I like a girl very much, We met through Facebook and have never met physically because we live in different countries.She seems to be a very nice girl to me and I love her very much, even more than myself.We know each other for the last 5 months, I always switch on my webcam while chat so that she can believe my identity.Now the problem is that When I say I love you, She says she does'nt believe me. I have told her so many times that after sometime I will come to her country and will settle there with her But she says no to that too. She says she is badly hurt by his ex boyfriend and don't trust guys now. But oneday when i asked her why don't you believe me she told that her exbf still calls her and is her good friend. And he messages her like me that he still loves her, But she does not love him anymore and same for me.She just talks to me on messgenger and never ping me from her end unless I ping her. Never replies back to my Facebook messages or my call.I don't know what to do or how to make her believe me, i really love her very much.I have never been in any relationship ever before But I think she thinks I am flirting with her. Sometimes I get very upset. Please suggest me what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Hey :),
I understand your problem well, the only advice I can give you at this moment is that this girl is probably still in love with her ex. I do not know wether or not she likes you, but I dont think it is your love she doubts, its herself she doubts. She is maybe still having hope of being with her ex, or maybe not. Anyways, at this moment in time, it is better for you to be a friend to her. If you and her together is meant to be, then it is meant to be and it will happen, if not, then let it go, but I wouldnt try to win her over to be with you now that she is emotionally struggling with her break up, because in the end it wont build a stable relationship between you and her, and it may complicate things for you ending up in a heart breaker... So try and stay her friend for the time being :), u can say you love her, but dont try and win her over to say she believes you. Wait until this ex is out of her life at least I'd say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): I'm going to be blunt. I don't think this girl feels the same way and to be honest i can understand why.
I remember somebody on facebook sent me a friend request and i stupidly accepted it. The next thing you know they are inboxing me telling me they love me. I'd hardly ever spoken to this person and they were saying how they looked at my picture everyday and couldn't live without me.
Needless to say i swiftly blocked the weirdo and have never EVER accepted a friend request from someone i don't know, since.
"She just talks to me on messgenger and never ping me from her end unless I ping her. Never replies back to my Facebook messages or my call." Can't you see she's not interested?
She's probably just being polite and is a little freaked out. Why don't you concentrate on meeting REAL women not virtual ones who live across the other side of the world?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): There is no one and only love for anyone. Between the distance and the disinterest, I would say it is time to move on. You will find someone else. Tell her you need to move on and cut contact. If she makes no attempt to keep things alive that is your answer. Nothing more you can do mate; sorry. Take your love and what you have learned and look for someone else.
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