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anonymous
writes:After a LOT of thought over a LONG time, I have decided that I need to move away. I have been single for a long time and while happy with myself I do want to find somewhere to share my life with. Unfortunately because I do not want children, this is much easier said than done and I have found it increasingly difficult to meet women in my sort of age range mid-30s-mid-40s who don't already have or don't want kids.I have loads of female friends, all of whom say aside from this I am a great catch, and I've had three long term relationships, all of which have failed due to my partners all changing their minds and wanting kids (or, more accurately, assumed I would change my mind). I don't want to start up with someone for this to happen, so I really want to meet people who don't want kids. I thought online dating would be good, but it proved hopeless. The few sites for 'no kids' datings have almost no members and there are very few women within 75 miles of where I live on other sites who don't want kids.I hardly meet any single women full stop where I live, so starting afresh somewhere new where I could meet new friends who might know some single women who don't want kids seems sensible. If I stay here, I'm just going to end up on my own.But how do I decide WHERE I should relocate to?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Pick any large city you like. More fish in the pond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): Well, I moved recently in the hope of meeting new people, friends etc. However, the main reason I moved was because of a job opportunity Like you, I know I will struggle to find someone who doesn't want kids also (yes I am female and have no desire to have children). But the key is being happy with who you are and developing strong friendships and acquaintances to increase your chances of finding the right person. I am more concerned in making sure I do meet the right person, and as I do not want children there is no rush as I am happy being single and not afraid of getting older. You could find that moving may help in some ways, especially if it is a bigger place and more opportunities to meet others. Just don't make any rash decisions and make sure you have a job to go to. It took me a while to adjust to my new settings and even though I was excited at the move, funnily enough I found it quite unsettling, more so being older now! Best of luck in whatever you decide to do, just don't rush into on anything you may regret, do some research on the possible place you would like to live etc first. :-)
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