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41-50,
*ycee25
writes:My son's father and I have been together for four years, and he is really starting to fall off; he's not working, taking care of himself and is becoming a miserable and angry person. However, I have been faithful for the length of our relationship and would never hurt him. I really don't know what's up with him, and I have been there for him completely (I mean like ride-or-die). Nothing is working. He just doesn't seem to see the light. I love him, but am not attracted to him anymore. It's coming to the point where I am looking at his cousin and am always thinking about him because he is always around. I hate the fact that I feel this way. His cousin is gorgeous and has a good head on his shoulders. I would never do a thing like react to my feelings, but the problem is that I want the feelings to go away! It is depressing me because I know that it is pointless to feel this way, and I am doing everything to suppress these feelings. I also wouldn't want my son's father to ever find out for fear of hurting him or not knowing what he would do. My son's father doesn't see that it's not working out. I really just want out of the relationship period, to forget about his cousin all together and just be by myself!
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reader, honestheart  +, writes (28 December 2008):
You said it yourself this relationship isn't working out. I have been in more than one relationship where i have wanted out but not acted on it but made myself miserable. I have also been cheated on many times. While you are still together you must not act on your feelings for his cousin. Think of the conflict it may cause in the family. If your relationship is truly over do what i didn't do and spend time alone to get to know yourself again...only then prepare to date. The most important person is your child. They must still spend time with their father but at the same time you must try to be happy. The less complicated things are..the easier things will be in the future. Good luck.
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