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writes:Hullos ,it is quite sad that i got my girlfreind cheating on me with another guy whom i happen to know .i found them having sex together so what i did i told the guy to simply dress up an leave the place .There after i was my girl who immediately started asking for forgiveness but then i told her to simply have a nice rest i kept with her as she sobbed and cried in shame i left the place after being with her for some and told her the opportunities that lay ahead which i had planned for but because of what she has done all the opportunities have been lost .i told her that she has lost the love i had for .and she has given her plea and her cry what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (20 January 2007):
 My man, the way you handled that was totally ace!! Gotta respect you on that! Too bad about the girlfriend thing. You really need to ask yourself, what in the hell made her want to screw someone else? Next, find the answer to whether this would've continued had you not walked in on them and how long would she have let this continue?
The obvious thing would be to ask her these questions but right now, her credibility is at zero so you'll have to answer them for yourself from what you know about her (if its possible).
Finally, my advice to you, learn from this terrible experience and hopefully, you wont have to go through it again with someone else. But of course, dump her ass. She only asked for forgiveness cos she got caught. Good luck dude!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): You stayed with her after walking in on them two!!!!???? What kind of saint are you? I don't really understand why you did that. I would of gone berserk! I certainly wouldn't of sat comforting her. You need to run, not walk away from this one, once a cheat, always a cheat!
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Dude
i don;t even know you but i respect your mutzy. You handled it like a true man dude and thats admirable. But you've already told her what the deal was and thats really that- the kind of guy you seem like doesn;t need to stay around for that kind of disrespect. obviously you two aren;t on the same page and she's obviously taken for granted the relationship you guys had. let her get her shoes on that dust track and take a walk.
All the fortune for the future brother
God bless,
Excogito
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Hi there
I am really amazed by your calmness in all this, you seem like a very respectable individual with a lot to offer, but unfortunately things got out of hand. I think u have two options here its either you forgive her or you let her go. Choose the one that makes u happy. If u decide to give her another chance: well forgiveness is the key and you will have to talk about this and sort it out and believe me flash backs will be there time after time and it can strongly affect your sexual feelings towards her but in the end time will restore what u once had. maybe seeking counseling together might be the best option as well if u can’t get past it all by yourselves. Just take it one step at a time but don’t be too calm allow your anger to come out otherwise if it happens again you will explode, so please let her have it she deserves it just don’t get physical.
If you think breaking up is the best option, believe me it will hurt like hell but u will get over it in no time. What she did is terribly wrong and unacceptable and no one can blame u if u decide to leave her because you really deserve someone who loves and respect you at the same time. I wish u all the best in whatever decision u make and hope it will the best ever.
jovial
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Don't even go there, once a cheat, always a cheat. She is only begging for forgiveness because she has been caught!! I bet the first thing she said was "this was the first time, its never happened before" blah blah blah.
I'm sorry to be so cruel but get rid of her, you could do so much better. Once you forgive her she will do it again and again as she knows she can get away with it.
You are a young guy who has his whole life in front of him. Get out on the town and enjoy yourself, life's to short and the world is a big place. You have plenty of time to settle down.
Good luck with your decision. xx
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