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writes:should i be worried that my boyfriend hasnt been calling me? he usually calls almost everyday i know hes been stressed lately but is that an excuse for not calling for several days? ive tried calling him and theres no answer so i leave a message and still nothing! should i be worried...and keep calling or stop and wait for him to call me. i dont understand whats going on ...please i need some advice is my relationship of 5 months falling apart!? Reply to this Question
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reader, Delilah5  +, writes (12 May 2011):
My boyfriend of three mos. brought me home 5 days ago and I haven't heard from him since. I have no idea what happened or what I did wrong. I refuse to call or e-mail him because I'm afraid of the answer. I know what all of you are going through. It's really hard because I really care for him and miss him a lot. But I believe he's just not that into me. I have accepted three dates for this weekend and next week. Going for it and moving on. I suggest that if this happens to you, DO NOT CALL HIM. It's his problem and you did nothing wrong. DO NOT TEXT OR E-MAIL HIM. If he cares for you he will show up. Don't wait for him and waste your time on someone who was never worth your time in the first place!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I am in the same situation. Most of the advises I get are to give him space, don't call, and wait yada yada yada..some says move on.. But the thing that bothers me, why can't he stand up and be a gentleman to say the truth..without getting us uptight or waiting to exhale...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): No, you shouldn't be worried! He's a jerk and doesn't deserve to have such a nice girl that cares for him this much. He doesn't care for you or he would call. Pick your head up and dry your tears because you will be fine. Everyone in this world deserves to be with someone that feels the same way for them, and this man does not respect you or reciprocate your feelings. After a month or two, you will be over this man. When you meet someone else, you will realize why it didn't work with this loser!
Good LUCK ... and quit calling him ...
You're just making him feel better about himself ... he thinks he can have you at any time ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): I am in the same situation. I had what I would call a great relationship with a guy who called me everyday. A couple of weeks ago we went out two days in a row and hung out. It was good. Then I called him a couple of times the next week but the conversation was short as he seemed stress with work and had a lot on. So I stopped calling waited for him to call, nothing. Sent a few text message and emails and still nothing. I pretty much left it. I asked a few guys and they ALL said if a guy is into you, he would like to talk to you and hear your voice and want to know what's happening with you. Think of it as over and move on, I know it's hard but you need to maintain your dignity. We don't deserve to be treated this way. If he does come back. Would you really want to be with someone who treated you that way in the first place? The world is full of people and men. Take your next pick!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Since you have called him already and left messages for him and he still hasn't got back to you, don't call him again! You must be strong and patient and it's not gonna be easy but if you ever wanna hear from him again, let it go. Give him some space and wait. He should call you if he still wants to be with you, and when he does, tell him how you feel and ask him why did he act like that.
If he doesn't call for another week or so you can call him but be prepared he might not pick up the phone and even if he does it will probably be the last time you talk to each other. When he answers just ask him what is going on. He owes you an explanation. If he doesn't answer his phone most likely its over and it's up to you if you want to leave a message or not but I wouldn't. There is nothing to say besides that he is not man enough for you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Without knowing your bf i cannot say what is happening here. But prepare yourself for the worst. It looks like he has got cold feet and hasn't the nerve to tell you. If you ever do get hold of him then try and have a chat and get it out in the open. If not then move on.
Take care
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 You need to talk to him face to face about this. You deserve to know where you stand.
If this guy admitts that he lost interest for you and is not prepared to try again, there is nothing else you can do to rekindle. It takes two people to work at a relationship.
But if that is the case, you do really want a guy that does not have the balls to cofront with the truth?
Get out there and meet new people to help you move on.
Be strong whatever happens.
Good luck
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 My angel,
It happened to me, and i hate to tell you this, but it's falling apart, he either doesn't have the balls to face you and tell you or he wants you to get upset and break it of so that he doesn't look like the ass!
My suggestion is call him, if he doesn't answer, leave him a msg with an ultimatum that he calls you or it's over, and see his reaction time!
But my guess is his playing you!
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reader, Dagwood +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Hi. Well things don't seem to be going to well do they? There are a number of reasons that he might be doing this... however if you knwo he's safe and has not been hurt or something then he's probably thinking about the relationship. My suggestion is to give him space. Don't call him! The more you "hunt" him down the more you'll push him away. It's hard, I know, but you can't force him to want to be with you. You should desire and not need to be with him. Go out with friends and try not think about him too much over this break period. If he loves you he'll come back, if not then you'll have to get over the break-up. That will be hard too but we all face it in our lives. We grow from the hard times. Hope things work out the way you want. Take care.
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