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female
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36-40,
*verwhelmedMom
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We have known eachother for more than 4. He is 29 and I am 25. We live together, we raise his 2 children from a previous relationship and I also have a daughter who is 2 that he raises as his own and has since her birth. We run a business together(that is in his name), have pets, shared accounts etc.He will not propose to me. We have talked about marriage, he says "one day". This is not good enough for me. He refers to me as his wife, I do all the "wifely" duties but to no avail. I stay home with our daughter, run "his" business, look after his 2 kids and all their needs, so why am I not good enough to marry.I feel like a fool. I know he loves me, I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him but when he won't make any commitment to me, I feel like I am setting myself up for disaster. If he decided it was over tomorrow, I would be left with nothing. I don't feel like he would do that, but I can't understand what is stopping him from proposing because it certainly isn't a money issue.Any help??
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reader, Auntie Soph  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 You need to talk to him about commitment putting some things in you're name so that if anything did happen you wouldnt be left with nothing. If he truly loves you he will surely do this and he will propose one day maybe hes just scared at the moment give him another year then bring it up again but more forcefully this is what you want. Most men think they wear the trousers in the relationship and because of this you left waiting you need to tell him that he should appreciate how much you do and propose to you even if you are engaged for a while at least you will know the commitments there.
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