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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi I want to get back with my ex, my ex wants to get back with me after i have made clear changes in my life, she has made effort to try and fix some problems with herself.There are a few things in the way, everyone is telling me she is not good for me after the way she treated me the first time around, they are annoyed that im still even seeing her as a friend. They dont know that we are thinking about getting back together yetShe has a few problems with getting back together, the exaggerations of stories to impress peopleThe fact that i let her down after saying we would do one thing then not get round to doing itHer parents, she is scared of them and she constantly fights with her mum, we are financially unstable in moving outShe dosent know if her feelings for me are becsuse she needs someone or is actually love and the want of having me aroundShould i go back to my ex and patiently wait for her to say yes to getting back together? In the meantime i have offered my fullest support because shes not in a great place in her life right now...thank you for your clarity x
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Why go down a path you've already been down before? You already know what will happen. Everyone telling you she is no good, should tell you something. She also doesn't know if her feeling for you are genuine..Pay attention to the warning signs! They're right there in front of your face.
Don't wait, continue into your future and down a fresh path instead of backtracking into the past. You've been there done that.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
 No. She's an ex for a reason and those changes you wanted aren't going to happen. She has to really want to change for herself. She's maybe making an attempt at change for you. This change will be temporary at best and you'll just end up broken up again.
Walk away. It will suck at first, but you'll thank me later. Then again, you could wait for her and then when you break up again you'll know your friends and I were right.
This cycle doesn't end, don't deceive yourself into thinking it will.
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