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*eogirl18
writes:I am 18 and my bf is 19. We have been dating for 1 yr and 3 months and we have lived together for 6 months. We love each other very much and have talked about getting married and having kids together. I want to marry him so badly. How long should I wait for him to propose? If he doesn't propose when I feel like is a good time, should I propose to him? I would be glad to get a guys opinion on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Are you desperate to marry this guy or desperate for the engagement/wedding etc??Seems that lots of girls all want the excitement of the wedding with the pretty dress and flowers and attention... but forget to focus on the rest of the marriage.Give yourself a couple of years before you commit to marriage... actually come to think of it, you are already living together... all that is missing is a piece of paper to say that you can legally take his name.....So why the desperation???????
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): I would explore in yourself why you need to marry him so badly. What will that accomplish? You've only known him a year and you don't realize that you may be committing yourself to something without getting to know more about yourself and the world you live in.
I'd say that if your desperate to marry him something is wrong with you and you shouldn't marry until such a time that you are relaxed about it and not desperate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Well I'm not a guy but I've had plenty of guys by the horns. Hehe. Ummmm. I don't know what the socially accepted age to marry in canada? 18 sounds awfully young. Well two things. 1 DO NOT PROPOSE! You are a lady. Men like to do the chasing. They like to be the hunters. They like a challenge. Proposing is like handing him everything he secretly wants you to make him work for on a silver platter. Not good. He's a man. Don't effeminate him. 2.you are both soooo young. Have you been to college? Have you traveled? Have you made a career? Have you set yourself apart intellectually and financially? These are the things you should focus on before thinking about marriage. Make yourself INTETESTING and self reliant FIRST and then worry about marriage. Luck.
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