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writes: Where to start? I am with this girl and she is 8 weeks pregnant with my child.She lives almost 2 hours away and neither of us has transportation at the moment.I broke up with her the morning of the 4th because she wanted to go home.I don`t have the best living arrangements at the moment.I live in a shed. Have electric , but no water. Get internet via the neighbour. I can`t stand being apart from her,and got mad at her leaving. I don`t blame her for not wanting to be here, but for not trying to keep us together. Anyway shortly there after I learned about this guy that she had been seeing. They had kissed about a on 6-19. We started dating in the beginning of May. During the few days we were separated she talked to him about getting with him and sex was a part of their conversation. She did see him and says they only kissed.I was able to read some of her messages and know for sure they only kissed back in June.I can only take her word for what happened in July.So now we are back together ( the only reason I am at this point is because I know it`s my child she is having ) . For I have caught her in a few lies lately. She was talking to this other guy while we were broke up and lied to me about where he lived. Said he lived across country when he lived in same state. Then when I proved that wrong she said he lived far from her , and I found out he lives near her. Any way I`m not concerned about him, only that she has lied to me. Anyway I`m back with her now even if we are 50+ miles apart.The last 2 days she hasn`t found much time to talk to me and today she tells me she is going to get her eyebrow and lip pierced.I don`t like the idea and she don`t care what I think. Recently I have talked to her about her useing flirt apps on myspace and tagged. It was difficult to explain to her why these things bothered me and I think she has stopped using them.Anyways I just needed to vent a little of this off. I love her, but honestly don`t give our relationship much hope.
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reader, Ilovemyoreo2010 +, writes (12 April 2010):
 (the girlfriend) i love him, i was just scared and wanted a trip away from reality! im only 20 and already have a baby, i never thougth id be in this situation but im glad i am, i love my little girl and i love her father! im not going anywhere! breezy was a good friend of mine and this meny months later ive not talked to him since. ill stay becasue i love jason and because i want our daughter to know her father!
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (18 July 2009):
Jason32477 is verified as being by the original poster of the question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-pregnant-girlfriend-is-way-too-flirtatious-any.html
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Pretty heavy stuff. Part of the problem is that you haven't known each other very long so there hasn't been enough time to create a meaningful relationship and the connection between the two of you hasn't been established. The distance between you is also a problem as you won't be seeing enough of each other to establish this deeper connection and it will give her opportunities to see this guy.
In the short term it doesn't appear that you will have a meaningful long term relationship because she is so restless. The baby will keep her busy which may help to settle her down but in the long term it could be rocky for you.
You can either be angry and upset with her which will probably end things or be patient give her lots of attention and hope she turns around or call it off meet someone else hope for a better life and just pay the maintenance when the baby arrives. Your decision but they are all tough outcomes.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
Jason32477 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is 20 and I`m 32. Her original due date was Feb 15th now its Feb 24th. She was here with me from 5-12 till 5-24.So yes I am certain it`s my baby.And yes if it was not my baby I would have moved on.A conversation between her and a guy friend oh hers..put together the best I could from multiple strings of tagged mail.Beezy!!!:07.7.09what r u doin'?guess what?Her:07.7.09im sittin here what?Beezy!!!:07.7.09courtney broke up with me like 2 days ago...............oh my god!!!!!!!!!!i miss u so bad..........i would have cum by there but i haven't had any gas and i have been outta school.........that's why i wasn't online 4 like 2 weeks...........Her:07.7.09dude come over here! lets go man we both single!!Beezy!!!:07.7.09i can't today sweety, i have a job...........i have 2 fix this guy's car after school.........what r u doin' tomorrow?i can't wait...........if u don't have any plans.....that is...........did u like it when u kissed me?did u wanna kiss me more?Her:07.7.09yes, yes! i cant wait either. i dont have plans.and i wont make any.what would we do tomorrow?Beezy!!!:07.7.09whatever u want babe..........what do u want 2 do?Her:07.7.09if u want after u fix the car u can come over here.ill be here.Beezy!!!:07.7.09i will try my damnest!!!!!!!!!i promise sweety!!!!!!!!!!!!Her:07.7.09i want you!just curious u and courtney rnt gettin back together r u?Beezy!!!:07.7.09i am not sure.................i am having a hard time right now.............u know how it is...........the thing i am concerned about is NOT her!!!!!!!!!!!!!Her:07.7.09i dont want u to get back together!! CryBeezy!!!:07.7.09i don't believe that i want 2 either.........Her:07.7.09u know that i would be with u in a heart beat?and would b more than willing to put up with the drama but only if i got u!Beezy!!!:07.7.09awwwwwwwwwwww.............................i know u would b willin' sweety................u didn't really act that way tho..........last time we chilled.........i kinda thought u didn't want me anymore......... :(Her:07.7.09no just that at that time i was scared i dont cheat on anyone and for u i would have and i wanted to and it scared me cause im not like that. i like u alot!Beezy!!!:07.7.09i understand sweety...........u don't have 2 explain...............i like u alot 2!!!!!!!Her:07.7.09i want you!Beezy!!!:07.7.09i want u 2!!!!!!!what do u want 2 do when i do come pick u up?Her::07.7.09lol. ok, i really wanna see u as soon as posible.Beezy!!!:07.7.09lol........u want me that bad huh?Her:07.7.09ya! lol is that hard to believe?Beezy!!!:07.7.09well, kinda..............Her:07.7.09y?Beezy!!!:07.7.09idk..........i just don't think that i'm that attractive............Her:07.7.09ur hot! crazy!!lol i love you!Beezy!!!:07.7.09u really think so?u really love me?i might be a lil' crazy..........but it's ok, so is everyone else!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOLHer:07.7.09lol i do think so and ya i love u.even if u dont feel that way for me.Beezy!!!:07.7.09i do love ya..................and i think ur really sexy.............Her:07.7.09see i dont think im sexy lolu really love me?Beezy!!!:07.7.09yea i do luv ya.........and i think u r sooooooooooo SEXYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Her:07.7.09thank u. i love u, i want to be with you.Beezy!!!:07.7.09i wanna be with u 2.......but can we just take it kinda slow..........i don't wanna jump right into another relationship...........i really do like u tho...............u understand right?i think we would have a very good relationship tho.............Beezy!!!:07.7.09thanx so much 4 understanding..........cuzz i just rushed right into it with courtney and look what happened............Her:07.7.09i wouldnt do that to u. im nothing like her.Beezy!!!:07.7.09i know...........we can just hang out and take things slow and stuff and see what happens!!!!!!!!!!!!!Her::07.7.09ok. thats fine but id still like to see u today if its posible. if not i might b able to b pacient lolBeezy!!!:07.7.09lol..............i know i said i wanna take things slow.......but i will probably just start kissin u and not stop until i make u have an orgasm............(wink,wink)LOLHer:07.7.09lol wow. i will enjoy that! hahaBeezy!!!:07.7.09haha...........what else would u enjoy?i just wanna know so i can make u happy when we hang out.................Her:07.7.09anything as long as u are in my company. do u have blow?Beezy!!!:07.7.09huh?Her:07.7.09lol weed. my dear!Her:07.7.09anything. we cant go back to the river tho because i came home and had ticks all over me lolBeezy!!!:07.7.09lol..............sorry...................i know a place that we can go...............and be alone...........(wink,wink)Her:07.7.09im gonna go get me an apartment i love ya ill ttylBeezy!!!:07.7.09when?right now?awwwwww mannnnnnnnn................... :( :( :( :(To:Beezy!!!Date:Jul 7, 2009 2:15 PMSubject:Re: hey sexyMessage:sorry i thought u were gone is was 3
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reader, Your friend +, writes (15 July 2009):
If she wasn't pregnant I'd tell you to move on. I hate to say this but are you sure the baby is yours...sorry for asking but...
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reader, Basschick +, writes (15 July 2009):
 She sounds young and extremely unsettled in life, even though she is carrying your child. I think you are trying to do the right thing, but I am not convinced she wants you to. I don't think she's ready to settle down with you and be faithful. If you plan to stay with her you will always have to watch her like a hawk and there will always be suspicions in your mind because of her behavior behind your back. That is no way to start a life. If you break up, you could still have visitation rights to the baby but you'll have to have court documents. She's so flighty, she could be the type to move and not tell you where she's gone. I don't know what to tell you, but I think you've got a rocky road ahead of you with this woman.
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