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writes:I'm new to the dating scene, so I'm quite clueless to all the dos and don'ts. My situation might be a bit complex but bare with me. There is this guy at work that I'm not sure if he is interested in me or just want to be friends. He gave me a cute letter stating that he wanted to get to know me better, but he never really used the word "date." I either assume that he wants to hang out with me as friends, or he wants to get to know me if I'm girlfriend material or whatnot. We "hang out" twice now, and I still don't know whether to consider them as dates because we both didn't label the outings as such. We were having fun, enjoying our time together. I absolutely love spending time with him. It's pretty obvious right now that I like him a lot but don't know if it's requited. My problem is that I have doubts about him. He has a bad rep that precedes him. Moreover, he is a popular guy and good-looking. I think he can get any girl he wants if he wanted to. He is in a band, and he even says that he goes out a lot after gigs, giving him more opportunities to meet new people. I don't know if I should continue whatever we have and give it a chance or simply let him go before I get heartbroken. The fact that he's good-looking, in a band, popular, has female friends (I've seen/heard him with/linked to other girls), and has a bad rep makes me question everything about him. Perhaps I'm being paranoid about it. Maybe I should just enjoy the ride, knowing that there is a possibility that I might end up with a broken heart.Like I said, I'm new to this dating game. This is the first guy, whom I like and I spend time with one-on-one. I'm so confused; I don't know what to do. Any help is appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you!
I think that is exactly want I will do; just cherish the moments with him, yet at the same time not getting ahead of myself.
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reader, simply.megan  +, writes (9 August 2009):
Wow, sounds like what I went through lol. Well I'm not guna give any dos and donts to be blamed for but I can tell u that I've been there and it was an awsome 8 months I don't regret, although it didn't last, it was ok because we had the same interests and had fun together... In the end though, the rep and rumors were mostly true. So just play it out. He might end up bein a hell of a friend, an awsome fling or who knows maybe even a longterm relationship is in store. But either way don't get ahead of urself and just do like he said 'get to know eachother'.
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