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*orriedgal
writes:Hi. I have been with my husband for over three years, married to him for just over six months, and in this time he has only been able to get to the over excited point of orgasm maybe three times in total..all of those times its been through oral sex. he is a large man about 135kg and I am large as well about 100kg. Hes 6 foot 2 though and I am 5 foot 6. We have started dieting and losing weight and we both have incentives for doing so. But since we have been married I hae began talking about wanting babies, he turns 30 in January next year and I will be 27 in March. I feel that we are at the right age to have kids but recently he has started saying that he wont mke babies with me until I am smaller cos when I get on top of him I apparently squash him. I have never had this issue before with previous fellows and have been around the same size since leaving school so its not like my weight has ballooned ot of proportion. I am also half italian half greek and do everything for him. Literally from cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing, everything sometimes when hes too tired i even take off his shoes and socks for him...so now I get super upset cos I think I do all of this stuff for him yet he doesnt find me attractive enough to make babies with me. We have sex regularly but he never gets there and if he never gets there I am never going to get pregnant. He refuses to go to a doctor, I have asked what I can do to make things more exciting for him but he just tells me when I lose weight we will have babies. Sometimes I get so upset I cry myself to sleep, I want kids more than I want anything in the world, but I also want him to be happy with me, what do I do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (9 August 2009):
Why on earth did you marry this man???
You aren't his wife, you are his maid.
I think you need to wake up and get some self respect. Is this really all you think you are worth? Is this how you really want the rest of your life to be?
If you think you might want to be happy, have children, or have a decent husband then YOU need to stop lying on the floor being his doormat and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Leave him. Just for a little while. Tell him you are sick of being his servant and want kids and he is not making you happy. Go to a friend's house or your parent's house for a few days.
If he comes after you then you can have a calm sit down talk about how he needs to respect you, do his share of the house work, and stop telling you that you are too fat and see a doctor about his inability to produce children.
If he does all that then go back to him and MAKE SURE HE REALLY HAS CHANGED before you get pregnant.
If he doesn't change or doesn't come and try and win you back, then you can move on and find a DECENT man to have a family with.
Don't leave it till you are too old to be a mother. Do it now or regret it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, aprilfools  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 Wow, I'm sorry.I know I am quite young, but this really bothers me.I know you're already married and everything but I would want to be with someone who would make me feel beautiful no matter what.That's one thing every woman wants.If you're with someone who makes you feel this way you need to tell him how it hurts you and come out and ask him why he's behaving as such.Maybe he's forcing himself to think about something that ruins the mood while you're having sex, in hopes that he won't ejackulate inside of you.I'm not sure...But regardless of the reason, he needs to make you feel beautiful.Who cares about your weight?ALL women are beautiful just the way they are.We're soft, kind, gentle, round with child-bearing hips...These are the things that distinguish us from men.It's not called fat; it's called feminine and it's beautiful.So feel good about yourself!You're a woman! You're beautiful!And Greek/Italian?I bet your skin is flawless.I take it you have brown eyes as well?Brown eyes are so beautiful.Mine are green =/I'm Irish/Scottish/Dutch so I'm freakishly pale...But you should feel good about yourself, and I'm sure that you could have tons of men crawling on thier knees for you if you wanted.He needs to realize what he has!ALL men should!
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