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*enc57
writes:Ok I have known this girl for a little while and we have been best friends for six months(took a lont time to get bff #1). Everyone makes jokes about how where a couple or were siblings because we’re with each other so much. I never considered the fact that I might like her until today because it’s one of the first days I haven’t been able to be with her today and I’m going insane trying to get her out of my head. Every day we say good morning and at night we say good night. Most of the time we are together I’m making jokes and she’s laughing. We hug a lot and she usually makes fun of me but only in that friendly way you just joke around. We have nicknames for each other and this is one of few days I’m not with her and every day I can’t be with her I just get amazingly depressed. There is 4 year an age difference so that’s the main reason I never considered it. also because im 17 and theres a age difference theres the question am i sick for even considering it. I’m not shore what to do now I feel like because of this day I’m not with her now my whole friendship is going to just be weird. I honestly don’t know what to do now I’ve never really dated anyone mainly because I’ve never had anything beyond a crush that lasted about two days but this feels completely different. can someone help or make sense of it?
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reader, benc57 +, writes (29 November 2010):
benc57 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys, im still freaking out about it but im shoure something will happen eventually, thank you again
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Sounds like you've developed feelings for this chickadee, and there's nothing wrong with that. When you turn 18 (she's the younger, right?), she will be about 14, and this might prove bothersome to your teenageboyhood if you two are of the law- abiding sort (and if not, her and even your parents might not at all approve)... I'm sure you know what I'm on about with That.
But! Consider when you've both grown- up a little... the difference between a 22- and a 26- year old who are serious about their relationship can be basically negligible... It depends on their characters and goals. If one is partyhardy and the other wants to settle down and have a kid or two, obviously the age thing comes to play (though it could be more a choice/Maturity thing, if it is the older who's the hooligan).
It ain't nothing but a number, asyaknow,
Tante Victoire
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Age gaps are a funny thing. I am 4 years younger than my husband but at our age's (he's 41, I'm 37) it doesn't seem such a big gap as a 17 year old with a 13 year old. I guess the only thing you can do is ask her out for a date and see how it goes.
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