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writes:Ive been friends w/ this guy for a while, he asked me out and i said yes. He really gets on my nerves sometimes and i kinda want to break up with him, but I also really want to have sex with him haha. My friends say "use him and lose him" It sounds kinda like a good idea to me, what do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Georgia13 +, writes (8 April 2010):
Georgia13 is verified as being by the original poster of the question these are all great answers, but me and this guy just broke up because he did something that totaly crossed the line, turns out we probobly wont ever be talking again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Honestly if he is anything close to a normal guy you might want to take a shot at being honest with him. I know if it was me and a girl said she wasn't interested in a relationship but still wanted to sleep with me then there's a very good chance I'd be interested. That way you don't have to deal with this moral issue, as long as everything's out in the open then no need to feel guilty. It's at his own risk by that point.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (6 April 2010):
 I'm with TasteofIndia here. Talk to the guy. If you BOTH want to just be friends with benefits, then that's one thing. But if he's expecting something more from you, don't just use him and then leave him with a broken heart. That's cruel.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (5 April 2010):
 There are plenty of hot guys out there that will be into being just a booty call or one night stand. Don't let this guy get his heart broken just because you are horny! And, he could start talking and, as CaringGuy said, get you a reputation as a girl who is "easy". Well, either that or a b*tch.
I think that it's totally okay to just want sex from someone and not a relationship, as long as both of you are on the same page about what you want, and of course - you're safe. But, don't just "use him and lose him"... it's just not nice. :o)
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is very immature! To even think of doing it is selfish. How would you feel if this guy decided that you got on his nerves, had sex with you then dumped you.
Put yourself in his shoes and grow up!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 April 2010):
Don't just use him, because you'll get yourself a reputation. Your friends seem to think that you can use someone and that it will all go away. What happens if you break his heart? Which you will, since he wants you for more than sex. He wants you as a girlfriend. If you want nothing but sex, find another guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Ask yourself if the situation was reversed, would you want to be used?
It's not really fair on him to use him just for sex, you should tell him honestly what the problem is and break it off, not just for his sake but your own too. If he still wants to stay with you just for sex after you have told him then thats different.
You really do have a lot to learn about relationships and probably about sex too.
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