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writes: Hello all - I am a 34 year old women who has had a somewhat difficult relationship with a guy who is having councelling due to his upbringing (unloving parents) and he can be most unreasonable, thinks he is never at fault, stubborn and never lets thing go. He has just moved away and is begging me to join him, telling me he will give me everything I want, to be settled, have a family and a commitment. I worry tho because he only ever says that he will go on social events if I promise not to drink "and act like an idiot" - even if im just having a laugh with my friends and letting my hair down. After an argument once he moved out along with all his belongings beacause he didnt want to accompany to a friends meal and told me that I should just accept that he didnt want to go simply because he didnt want to go!. Because I was sat at home crying in disbelief I told my sister and after seeing him out she swore at him. That was six months ago. He says he will not talk to her ever again unless he gets an apology. I dont want her to apologise as she was sticking up for me. Do I have a future with this guy who ... will give me everything, or am i better off walking away in the hope of meeting someone else? I want to settle down so badly.When we get on, we get on well, but it only seems to be when its just me and him?? Please help me......
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou everyone for your advice, I was due to see him tonight but after about 80 texts to and fro today he is now arguing about my deceased ex (who died when I was 22) asking me to assure him I love him more. This is a battle not a simple loving relationship that I long for. I was scared of being single and worried about not having children, but I think Im prepared to cut my losses and take a risk, and be happy. Everything with him is all about blaming me, my faults all the time. He cant see his own! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): Look at www.hiddenhurt.co.uk
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 You should terminate the relationship with him. He has
A personality disorder and its going to effect your well
being in the futor. He is a person hard to reason with. People with a personality disorder are very often highly
manipulative which I personaly don't think you realise to the which extent. In my opinion if you end up with him you will be very unhappy.
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (26 November 2008):
 If you think he's controlling now, just wait!
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