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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid i need solution of this complicated problem. I have nobody to share my grief. My mother died when i was small, since then i am a very sensitive kind of girl. Recently i am perplexed and really need your help..so here it goes :i have been cheated earlier by men in relationships. Still i didnt give up and gave chance to this guy 'X', we had a great relationship till two years. Now things have changed, his mother came into the picture and suddenly his family started torturing me. They didnt utter a word till two years even though they knew someday we were planning marriage. now his mom wont let me talk to him, keep on calling me. She is playing some kinda game, i guess. She is sweet to my bf's face but hates me actualy. She had also earlier invited me at her home and introduced me to some of her relatives (but again that was our sarcastic meeting). The problem is my bf doesnt take my stand in front of his family. He just apologize and beg for another chance and i am sick of all these things. Then i met this guy 'Y', who supports me but i dont love him. I just like him. I love my bf and i know he also loves me but his mother's behaviour towards me is really rude. I miss my mom :( i cant even avoid him. We share same college, class and tuitions. What to do? I dont know..but i feel this guy 'Y' likes me. I am really tensed. Moreover, guy 'X' says if i married somebody else he will kill him and himself as well as i havent seen his passion for me yet. He has once infact attempted suicide. Please please help me, how can i help myself? I will be grateful to you. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (4 September 2011):
 If this guy is contemplating suicide and murder because you might leave him, then he's really not worth being with. And he should be sticking up for you when it comes to his mother but he's not. And he has to start soon or you would never be comfortable around his family, and you don't want to feel awkward every time you have a family event if you plan on getting married. You and your boyfriend both know that his mom isn't going to change her mind about you, so he needs to stand up for you. Don't allow yourself to be disrespected because he doesn't have the balls to stop you from being disrespected. You can either stay with him and deal with his mother, or you can leave and find someone better. And if he threatens someone else's life just because you might be with someone else in the future, then how do you think he will be when you two get married and get into fights? He isn't worth taking the chance if he threatens someone else and can't stand up for you. As for the other guy, don't think about being with him unless you're going to end your current relationship.
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