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writes:I have a female co-worker who has been displaying some flirtatious behavior toward me when it is just us talking. These include: playing with / stroking her hair, pushing her hair to one side, exposing her neck to me; having pretty good eye contact; leaning back on her chair, arching her back and holding her hair behind her head, and sitting within my personal space; adjusting her clothes and applying lip gloss. Then recently, she changed her hairstyle, but while still doing some of the above behaviors, she said she has a boyfriend. I'm a bit confused as to intentions and wanted to get some opinion on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): I think she wants you to respond. She is clearly attracted to you and by doing these things, she is purposely letting you know that she wants you. I know you gotta tread lightly with women because they could give you the signs and then turn around and tell you to back off. But I think she knows exactly what she's doing. Women know what to do to reel a guy in. Be the man. Go for it. She is giving you the green light. You can't expect one person to do ALL the work, can you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): she is just being a normal woman. some guys think that when us women do that we are "flirting" Most of the time it is habit. Dont get your hopes up , plus she is your co-worker and if it didn't work out could be problematic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): RedAthena, you think so? I thought she might be trying to 'push' me to some type of response, due to my not really responding (it is at work, after all). I appreciate your reply!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): Sometimes, women do this to see if they "still got it" It is like an ego boost, a rush, and sometimes a high. It sounds like she finds you attractive and is interested but she is not available. Maybe, if it does not work with her boyfriend she would consider you. Hang in there!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (5 September 2011):
 In traditional body language code, she might be displaying "interest" towards you, but I doubt there are any real intentions.She is not available. If that status changes and you are attacted to her, ask her out and proceed to the next level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): Some people just like attention from the opposite sex. No different than a guy working out at a gym and then walking around like a stud in the office place. It doesn't mean they want anything more than just attention. Some people outright flirt while married and think nothing of it. Most of the behaviours you listed are normal things women do throughout the course of the day even when there is no male audience.
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