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writes:Am I right to be upset with my friends on this? I help coach some softball teams for my local area. I try to help setup teams and find people to play on all the nights. My problems began a couple months ago when two of my friends(from different friend groups) who both have significant others and still have significant others hooked up over the weekend. Its not my business but I don't want that crap on the team. I picked up on this and although when softball season came around one of them was trying to covertly get me into putting them together I decided it was better that they weren't together on the same team. I knew about them sleeping together but I don't think at this time they knew. I thought I was just asking for trouble by putting them on the same team. SO I didnt. The other night the girl informed that she had talked to a couple of people on the other team and that they would all be okay for a switch to put them together on the same team. I called her out on her shenanigans(but I am just as bad trying to keep them apart), I reminded her that so an so has a gf and that she has bf too. I reminded her about the weekend which she said nothing happened. She simply replied that shes a social butterfly and that people want her on the other team. If they are going to cheat they are going to cheat. It just pisses me off that usually when I have relationships like this half way through the season I have to end up replacing one or two of them because they can't keep it in their pants. Its a intermediate league and maybe Im putting to much thought into this but it just upsets me that neither of them are really looking at it from my perspective. I feel bad that I called her out on her moves but if I don't pay attention to it I'm going to lose hold on the team. Reply to this Question
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reader, awesome14 +, writes (17 May 2020):
If they're not married, it's not cheating. If they want each other all to themselves, they can 'get' married. So, let them do as they please. There is no expectation fidelity, because 'fidelity to what?'! There's no vows or bond!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2019):
 Replace them both. ASAP.
Tell your friend that drama is not helping the teams and you want NO part in their drama, so they can either stay on their respective teams or both be replaced.
That is what I would do.
I don't think you should feel bad for calling her out, even if it's not really your job to judge. IT is, however, your job to make the teams work. So telling her exactly why you aren't going to comply with her request, is not a big deal IMHO.
As for them not seeing it from your perspective... is that really a surprise? They don't give a single shit about their respective partners... why should they care about you?
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