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writes:I have fantasised about something for a while and it's coming true. My fantasy is that I would move next to my crush of three years.I'm an only child living with my mum and dad in a two bedroom house. My mum is pregnant and we have to move into a bigger house. It just so happens that we are moving next door to my crush into a four bedroom house which happens to be a steal because of the circumstances of the previous owner moving out. Now I have had previous history with this person. For example he used me to get rid of a previous girlfriend of his because he knew I like him. It wouldn't be such a problem living next to him if our parents weren't friends. Our houses are also conjoined. Not like terraced because the houses are all different. The only way we can take our bin out is through their garden which they've said is okay, and its my job to take out the bins. It wouldn't be a problem if I didn't have to spend so much extra time with him. His mum has already volunteered him to help me babysit my sister. What do I do?I have to ask kindly please don't tell me to get over him. I want nothing more to be over him but I'm not, so telling me again isn't helpful. It's what he did to me which makes me angry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2012): That's what I was trying to avoid. Our parents are good friends however my mum nor his mum know what has happened between us. I have been trying to avoid telling her because they are such good friends. Does this mean that I have to tell my mum regardless of what she will think of him afterwards? I'm sure that if I regect his baby sitting help my mum will get suspicious. I'm not sure why I want to protect him. I guess it's because I don't want my parents to fall out with his. I do agree though. I don't really want him anywhere near my dog, let alone my baby sister. It's just the fact that they are friends, and our families spend time together that annoys me. I spend too much extra time with him already, the amount of times we're at theirs for lunch or vice versa is bound to go up when we live next to each other. I just feel too rude not to go.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (20 October 2012):
 So_Very_Confused is absolutely correct on this one.
You do not need his help.
Make sure your mother understands that his help with babysitting should be refused.
Some mother's have their children on a pedestall and don't see the baser side of their children. I would not allow him to babysit the cat. let alone your sister.
Be disinterested and brisk, "sorry, can't stop, I'm in a hurry, Bye"
He may regard this as a challenge, So keep up the same message every time, (Broken Record technique)
Do not confide in him. Do not share any secrets with him and don't discuss the past with him.
If he keeps on trying remind him, "hey I've moved on. You should too. Why stay stuck in the past? boring!can't stop, I'm in a hurry, Bye"
if he will be a cad once he will be a cad twice
Pity your parents are friends. And what a great pity that you have Match-making parents :(
That you do not need. It is quite clear that your parents and his parents are angling to get the two of you back together. Little do they know.
Will your Dad understand your reluctance, once he knows what a cad they guy is? Better than your mother and his mother - who both seem to think they want to see the two of you together again. Not good at all. parents should stay out of match making like this
Remain firm and do not allow him to corner you when you take out the trash. Only take the trash out in daylight hours, not when it is dark. Maybe ask your father if a Sensor light can be installed so that the light goes on as soon as it detects movement along that pathway to the outside?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 October 2012):
 all your mom has to do is refuse his help...
tell her I really don't want his help.
you really won't see him unless you really want to all that often...
i live in a townhouse and go weeks without seeing my neighbors.
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