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writes:Recently i was at a party, where i noticed a girl flirting with me. Now, i am in a happy and good relationship, so ignored it all, thinking all the time to ignore cause i love my girlfriend very much. After some time i saw her hooking up with another guy. And somehow i felt jealous seeing that. I don't know why i had those awful feelings, and now ofcourse feel very guilty towards my girlfriend for feeling that. Why did I have those feelings of jealousy...? I want to tell her about the event, but i'm not sure how to approach it,
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 June 2013):
 you felt JEALOUS.... not sure that's what it was to be honest..
I think what you felt was regret over the lost potential.
I do not think you need to tell your gf about feelings that are not related to her unless you feel that this changes how you feel about your gf and you are now considering leaving her and exploring dating others....
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reader, Makayla5893  +, writes (4 June 2013):
Completely agree with what anonymous wrote. It's normal to desire other people sexually, but acting on it is a different story. I think you felt jealous because a part of you wished you could have been in the other guys position, even though you love your girlfriend. When people are in relationships they do lose a part of their freedom- the freedom to hook up with whom ever they please. Talking to your girl about this would be selfish, because you would be hurting her feelings to get this off your chest and make yourself feel less guilty. You didn't cheat on her, so there is nothing to own up to. You're not a bad person! Just a natural feeling :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2013): You might just feel jealous because it was something you sexually desired, passed up on, and saw another person get in it. Nothing weird about that.
But why would you want to share this with your girlfriend? She not your therapist or just a friend, it would be out of line and inconsiderate to tell her, unless of course you are opening up the conversation to seeing other people.
Leave it alone, talk to your good friends about it, but do not share this with your girlfriend unless you are looking to create mistrust, drama, and hurt.
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