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writes:Hi FriendsBackground: I know a girl I met for a few weeks nearly 4 years ago when she was in my town. We had an unusual chemistry between us, lots of teasing and flirting. She left and we went out ways pretty much keeping in touch at times on facebook. Just to put it in other words we never forgot each other.She recently came to town on a work trip and we set up a meeting. Time just flew by as we talked on and on about how we did things over the last few years, or past relationships and so on. She said she is gonna fly more to my home town in the coming months and would like me to visit her too. Although I still feel the chemistry very much between us, I was very casual about it and said "Of course, U are always welcome to visit. and I will be visiting you maybe in a month or so". Too bad we did not get to spend more time since she was on a very busy business schedule. I am just thinking how to take it from here. Usually I would not write on a website asking people for some tips, but this is an unusual situation (it was hard to forget her despite 4 years and she didnt for get me either; in her business trip schedule she still managed to take out 2 hours for me).I wanted to text her saying, I was so glad to c her again and wish she could spend more time here. But I am not sure. Some tips please. Thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 May 2014):
 It depends on what you want and how far apart you two are.
if you want to try to make this work and are close enough for regular visits and for someone to move in the near future then by all means go full guns.
if you want just fun and occasional games when one of you is near the other...then make sure you are clear on that with her.
I see nothing wrong with sending her a nice message to say it was nice to see her but remember that having a relationship via text is not good. Texts get dropped, messages get misunderstood... so many issues could happen.
If you are asking if an LDR is worth it I suggest you read this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-my-long-distance-relationship-worth-it.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2014): I think she made it clear by asking you to go and visit her in her town that she is interested. If you like her and want to have realationship with her why not asking her out on a date. I am sure she would love it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2014): Oh I'm sure she would love that, if you feel you guys have a connection then go for it. Life is short and there doesn't seem to be any limitations, well maybe just one: what do you want out of this, A long term relationship? Are you in for long-distance? because she obviously seems interested, and she's clearly making an effort to make time for you and fly to see you. So i think it's important that you know exactly what you want with this girl, because she sounds invested and if she's making plans then you can't be casual about this and waste her time. So sort that part out! A tip though, I would call if possible. It's always better than texting, it's more personal.
If you really like this girl then make sure she knows it, they usually can tell by themselves, but if you say it it will mean a lot to her.
Hope this helps!
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