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writes:Dear CupidMy bf of 3 years is getting angry all the times these days. He goes on weeks without talking to me. He gets angry if i talk about my work related issues or if i forget to buy his stuff or ask him to pick me up from work or to take me out on a date...Earlier when he is angry he stops talking to me, now he calls me names like slut, whore..... I told him lot of times not to call me names, he never listens and doesnt even apologize for calling me namesAfter fight, i have to apologize so that he would even talk to me. After 2 or 3 days he again picks up a fight about something i did or didnt do. I dont know what to do anymore, i cannot make him happy and im unhappy cause of fights all the time. Please help me, what should i do Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 May 2014):
 You started with "My bf of 3 years..." then went on to describe the behaviour of some man who - obviously - is NOT a "boyfriend", at all.
Please clarify your submittal.
Good luck
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reader, llifton +, writes (25 May 2014):
 Maybe you don't realize this because you're too emotionally involved in the situation to fully see it, but calling your partner names like slut and whore are forms of verbal abuse and completely unacceptable. He has absolutely NO right to speak to you like that. In any type of healthy relationship, words like that are NEVER used. Ever. And the first time someone speaks to you like that should absolutely be the LAST time.
This man is abusive. You need to get away from him. You say you're unhappy all the time (and who could blame you), so why do you stay? This isn't going to change. He has no reason to change, as you've given him no reason to want to. You tolerate his horrid behavior and he therefore thinks/knows he can get away with it. You're teaching him it's acceptable to be abusive - not that this is your fault.
Stop trying to please him and dump his pathetic ass. You don't ever treat those you love the way he's treating you, and you know it. You should never speak to someone you love with such hurtful words, and you certainly don't get mad over such petty nonsense. I hope you write us back and tell us you left him. Life is too short to waste it on someone so shitty.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (24 May 2014):
 Well he sounds a barrel of laughs. How old is he? If, as his behaviour suggests, he is 13 wait for him to grow up. If he is of similar age to you, 30-35, accept he is an ignorant, aggressive jerk and find someone who treats you with respect.
Silent treatment for weeks is adolescent, confidence sapping and hugely frustrating. Good relationships are based on good communication, not playground bickering.
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2014): It's time to kick his ass to the curb. You may not be ready to get back out into the dating scene; but you can't remain in an abusive relationship with an angry man. He has no respect for you, and he doesn't see reason to be good to you.
Time to gather up the courage to take a big step. I know it's scary, but could being single be worse than what you're dealing with right now? You're wasting precious time.
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