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writes:25 years, 25 years. I have been caring for both my parents and my sister for 25 years and to be honest nothing has really bother me.Until recently, my brother has suddenly reappeared in our lives after almost 10 years of nothing. The promises he made to me to help me look after my parents and sister never happened. Now he wants to help but i really do not trust his motives. Mum is just happy that he has come home and does not see anything sinister. I am happy he has reappeared but still want to know why now and not 10 years ago. A lot of things he does not talk about, apparently his past is complicated. My past has been bloody hard, i still have the engagement ring i intended to give to someone before any of this happened. She has 2 boys aged 10 and 13 and that breaks me. Breaks me because those 2 boys could of been mine. I often think of having a family but that's never going to happen. Would love to enhance this world by bringing an addition that would make changes? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 April 2016):
 Well done for taking on such a responsibility. I salute you.
Now your brother has reappeared, and in fairness you are not sure what he has been through, but allow him now to help you out, allow him to look after your parents and sister and go and live some of your life. It is never to late to meet someone and settle down. I am not sure what happened between you and your ex partner, but you need to let that go, its not healthy wondering what could have been, it is much more important now to live your life to the full, you are not on your death bed yet so get out there and enjoy life.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 April 2016):
 I don't think it's EVER too late to start living life. OK so it may not be the life you dreamed about or fantasized about but it IS YOUR life.
Give your brother a chance, and LET yourself off the "hook", so to speak, of being the sole caretaker.
If you see him do something shady, you NIP it in the bud, but otherwise give him a chance.
If you think having a family is an option, then maybe you need to refocus and loot at WHAT could/can be an option.
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