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writes:Almost every day it seems there is a post that pops up from someone who has had unprotected sex and is worried about the possibility of being pregnant or having caught a sexually tranmitted infection.Alot of the time, this is due to them being pressurised by their partners not to use protection. This for anyone considering unprotected sex or anyone who is under strain from their partner not to use a condom.How to respond to your partners excuses:1. If he says: "It ruins the mood."How to respond: "Having unsafe sex puts me out of the mood. For good!" or "having a screaming baby would put us both out of the mood"2.If he says: "If you really love me, you should trust me."How to respond: “It is because I love you that I want to be sure we’re both protected.”3.If he complains: "I can’t feel anything when I’m wearing a condom.” How to respond: “Many condoms have extra features to actually make sex better, and that you will both be better able to relax knowing you are safeguarding yourselves against STD’s and unintended pregnancy. Plus, men can actually experience more pleasure with a ribbed condom than without one at all4.If he says: "Condoms don’t really work; most of them get busted."How to respond: "If we use it the right way, its 98% effective."5.If his excuse is: "A condom spoils my enjoyment of sex.”How to respond: “I can't enjoy sex unless we’re protected.6.If his objection is: “But you’re on the pill.”How to respond: "The pill won’t protect us from STD’s that we may not even know we have – a condom will give us that protection.”7.If he says: "Don’t tell me that you actually think you’ll catch something from me."How to respond: "I’m sure I won’t, but its better to be safe and I don't want to get pregnant"8.If he insists: “But we’ve had sex without a condom before.” How to respond: “That that was a bad decision, and I don’t want to make it again. We were lucky, and I am not chancing it again.”Rememeber if your partner has any respect for you he will use a condom when you ask him to.I understand everyone makes mistakes and it seems easier just to agree but is weeks of worrying you have caught something serious, stressing that you may be pregnant and having tests worth it? I'll let you decide!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Hi, thanks for posting this article, it has some great responses for people who are being pressured to have sex without a condom. I'll be linking to it when appropriate.
Antipubesuk, you completely missed the point of STDs, which are really the number one reason to use condoms. And avoiding STDs is both partners' responsibility.
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reader, antipubesuk +, writes (10 September 2008):
Having sex without a condom is a waste of time it is like taking a bath whilst still wearing your socks. Contraception in the 2000s is a womans responsibility. You have to carry it for nine months, You choose wheather you want to keep it or not and you choose where it lives when its born. if you do accidently fall pregnant and you want rid without the long walk to the doctors I suggest a bottle of gin, a knitting needle and a piping hot bath.
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reader, Harlequin +, writes (4 September 2008):
Just read all this and i completely agree with you, good on you for putting this out there because i bet it has helped a lot of people. Saying no to unprotected sex is respect for yourself and means that you have control over your body, NOT the other way round!
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