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Boyfriend is blowing hot and cold. If he's unhappy, why doesn't he end it?

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Question - (17 January 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 18 January 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello everyone,

I have a boyfriend of nearly three years, and unfortunately with money issues etc we are long distance for the moment but want to move in together when we save enough.

However whenever I talk or contact my partner he seems very unhappy with me? In a text he will say sweet things etc but when we talk on the phone it always sounds like he loves me one minute and finds me annoying the next?

I love him so much and just want him to be happy. But it makes me wonder why if he is unhappy why hasn't he left me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013):

the information you have given is far too less.

It is a known fact that guys can't usually end a relationship and he may wait till things get to a volatile point to act on any of his doubts.

so my suggestion is if you have a problem with it ask him about it or end it.. because he clearly doesn't have a problem with the way things are going.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (18 January 2013):

It could be that he's unhappy with the situation, not you. LDR's are difficult as you know, and making him happy from far away isn't as easy as doing so up close.

This may sound crazy but you could ask him! I'd say that's probably the best way of knowing for sure. Even if he doesn't tell you the whole truth youmay be able to get enough out of him yto satisfy your curiosity.

Sometimes people want to end things but they don't know how. In this case I don't think that's happening because of the nice texts he's sending you. I would say don't worry about it but you still probably would benefit from talking to him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013):

The only way that you will know is by asking him directly. But not by text.

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