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writes:just wanted to ask for some thoughts from all over the world. thanks for those who clicked in and willing to spend their time on reading my post and help me.i just broke up with a girl 5 months ago. her reason was, she wants a normal life/relationship and doesn't want to disappoint her family members because of this abnormal relationship we have for almost 3 years now. she insisted on breaking up with me as i did asked her to come back to me for quite a lot of times. i admit that i miss her a lot. after she left, depression overwhelmed. hardly ever happy. friends told me to move on. i tried real hard. but it seems everywhere i go i can picture her there. in my room, in my car at the mall everywhere. we've been so close, going through all the ups and downs together, doing almost every thing together. and now.. she left me with that reason. i am so tired of all the crying and depression. i really hope she would come back to me again. i love her so very much now i can't live without her. days without her really suffering. but i know i couldn't completely blame her for that, in my country, everyone look down at you if you're into abnormal relationships. to my country, it's an embarrassment. but anyhow, deep down in my heart i still love her like always, and really wish i could have another chance to be with her again. what should i do the following days without her. i'm locking myself in the room like almost everyday. i don't have the mood to go out or do any other things. every morning i woke up, i feel her absence, my mood is ruined. i'm really sad and lost of directions. people from all over the world,give me some advice on what i should do and how to deal with this problem. i've been dragging this problem for 4 months now and still hiding myself from the fact. i look terrible feel terrible every day help..
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 God gave us free will with out that gift we really wouldn't be alive more like an ant that mindlessly carries out its orders barely aware of anything running on instinct from birth. Just about every person will or has experienced what your going through, but i promise you will get over it your heart will heal and when your older you will under stand.
In some parts of the world a same sex relation ship is highly shunned upon you can be completly ostracized form your famaily and comunity even put to death, its not rite but thats they way the world is. As you gro up you will learn more lessons that are hard.
at your age sexulity can still be figuring itself out maybe one day you find your self a nice husband that you love and can have a family with but whatever you decide good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your reply.
i know i have to move on. i just feel unfair on how our relationship ended up. especially the reason she gave me. why we must be split up because of the 'abnormal' word. we were good all along and its too sudden. i didn't know she would leave me for that. it's so cruel and unfair. we are just two human beings created by God who just happen to be in love with the same sex. why its not acceptable? if this goes against God words, why God still create us this way?
i got to admit i'm still very depress about the whole breakup thing. to move on, its really hard for me. and i'm not from a well-off family, i couldn't afford a travel. i'm keeping myself busy most of the time on hobby. but its still hard to get my mind off her. i don't know how long it will get me to forget her. maybe a replacement of her would be the best way to keep me off from her. but i'm not ready to love again. i'm scare i will be hurt the same again.
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reader, solomon  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 If you have a lot of money, you can go outside and make a travel.
They say The Time is the best doctor.
If you are a prole, you can look for a job. Working must be another Doctor for you.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (8 January 2010):
Cheer up be thankful for the good things you have respect your friends wishes and do you truly believe you could have a happy life with her you need to understand where shes coming from maybe its good for the both of you, time will help you you wont forget her but the pain will ease your a young girl you have alot of years left you will have more painful experiences.
You need to pic your self up she was a big part of your life but not your life its time to start living for you again. I wont call your relation ship abnormal in fact its quite normal many people and i would say the majority of people would be in same sex relationship if t wasnt shunned upon by society for the most part we are taught that its wrong for one reason or another from child hood.
Im a christian and i think homosexuality goes agaisnt Gods word but so does lying stealing fornicating and so many other people do The Bible teaches if we give into our sins eventually they become us and we will see no wrong in our ways.I have no personal opinion on it its not my place to judge others but most people will judge thats why you need to respect your friends decision and let her go.
cheer up ten yrs from now this wont be very important to you, Start doing some things that will help you and better your life, schooling or any hobbies you enjoy, you gotta come out of your room theres a whole world waiting just to see your smile oh and that special person will come around so keep your eyes open but not to wide a bug might fly in it.
In the mean time you could get an account on Dearcupid and help others to keep your mind off of things for a bit.
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