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writes:I have multiple sclerosis and i cannot achieve an erection. I want to share the enjoyment my wife would have with a man who can provde her with an erect penis. We play and touch but nothing replaces an erection. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Nothing turns me on like oral sex and you need to find fantasies that both of you can share - find out what really turns on your wife. Whilst an erect penis is fulfilling to a degree, it is the emotionaly closeness that is the ultimate beauty of physical attraction. I think you have an opportunity rather than a hindrance. It is so easy for guys with strong erections to just 'use it' and get it over with. Sometimes women consider sex without 'it' (so to speak) as fantastic. My boyfriend says to me "I just love pleasuring you" which is the ultimate compliment and that primarily involves everything but penetration. There are many sex toys available which can help you express your love. I would recommend expressing your vulnerable feelings with the edge of excitement that it represents endless possibilities. I hope this helps.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 January 2010):
It's ALL about the emotional intimacy for us girls. Has she SAID there is a problem? I know you must be feeling awful about this, but it really may not be the problem you think.
Please keep communicating with her because it could be she goes along with some bizare stuff, because you think she's missing a penis, but really she's just trying to help boost your pride and doesn't really enjoy it at all.
Vibrators are ALWAYS fun though...
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): although you are right nothing can replace you.. you both might get enjoyment out of toys. My longtime gentlmen friend uses them on me.. and its a turn on for both of us.
on another note... women don't always need an erection.. its the moment and intimacy we love.
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reader, paulofessex +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Hi l have copied and pasted the following from www.mssociety.org.uk as l have no knowledge of MS but was touched by your question.
Approximately 70 per cent of men with MS experience erectile problems, although these generally start some years after the first symptoms of MS appear. However, if you experience sexual difficulties, do not automatically assume they are directly linked to MS related nerve damage. There are various other potential causes of erectile dysfunction such as side effects of medication or an unrelated health condition. By talking to a healthcare professional, such as your doctor or MS nurse, you can ensure the causes are accurately identified, and you receive the most appropriate treatment. Treating erectile dysfunction successfully can have a very positive effect on quality of life.
Vacuum devices can also be helpful. They work by fitting a plastic tube over the penis and use a hand pump to create vacuum pressure that results in blood flow into the penis. A ring is then placed around the base of the penis to maintain the erection created. The ring is removed after intercourse. Unfortunately, whilst this can help with erection, it will not bring back sensation.
Can l also ask you if it is you who has the main problem with this, your wording suggests it is, has your wife actually voiced issues.
I wish you both the very best
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