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writes:I am completely in love with my boyfriend, and he loves me too. I have been dating him for about a year, and things have generally been great.. But I've been thinking about things lately, and I've realized that they haven't been so great, especially in the past few months.He seems to be a very controlling person. Even though he's not jealous or overly possessive, he always expects things from me, and asks me to do a lot of things. He gets upset when I don't do them, no matter how trivial they are. He also gets upset about me liking certain bands, books, or movies. He makes fun of a good portion of my interests.I have been getting upset with him way too often, and I can't talk to him like I used to. Even though things have always been similar to this, I used to be a lot happier with him. Now I'm just upset, and very unhappy. I've talked to him about it before and not much has changed. I just don't know what to do now. I don't want anyone to get hurt, especially since I know I am his life, and he would do anything for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): It seems you a realising what kind of guy he really is. He sounds very controlling and that is not how realtionships should be. If you are upset and unhappy how long can you go on like this. If you have talked to him and nothing has changed, he is not willing to take into consideration how you are feeling. Have a break from him and see how much he does want you and improve things with you.
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reader, hotinlove  +, writes (15 February 2011):
What is more important to you? To be happy with the life you live, or to be miserable but have your man happy? Who is that going to help? Your here on this page because you have doubts/ frustrations, and you are asking for help because your not happy. Its time to take a step back and look at this relationship. It sounds like your man does not respect you or your feelings. Is that fair? You said he would do anything for you, if thats true; its time to sit him down and tell him flat out what needs to change or your walking out the door. It sounds like your only still there because you know you are his life? If you ARE his life, then he will do whatever necessary to keep you around, instead of just talking about the things he does wrong, tell him what he does right! (if any) And tell him how much you appreciate it when he doesnt take you for granted, or poke fun of your interests, afterall he is one of your interests, is that stupid too?
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reader, Hacienda  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 This is a tough situation, and one I have had a similar experience with. what you really need to do is sit down with him and express in depth the way you are feeling and tell him how unhappy you are. if he doesnt understand, or make an attempt to help you work this out then perhaps you should talk about moving on. I know how it feels to be hesitant because you don't want to cause pain, but there is no avoiding it with love to be honest. Make yourself happy. There is no point in being in a relationship that doesn't fulfill you because one day you will just want to up and leave and it is not fair on either party involved. I'm not saying yes definitely break up. But from what you say he doesnt seem to respect you, make that feeling known. you need to discuss this with your boyfriend and if it is truly love and you are meant to be together you will work it out. Love is worth fighting for if both parties are willing to try and make it work
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