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writes:Hi Cupid,I have never been so depressed in my life. My boyfriend recently broke up with me and I am still confused as to how this happened. I had known this guy from work for over 3 years but we were only acquaintances. I moved across the street from him last June and since last July 2010 we became friends. We continued to hang out and as time progressed we hung out a lot more both at work and outside of work. Around early November he put the moves on me but I chickened out and didn't reciprocate. However, I continued hanging out with him. We never talked about that moment. In December we finally hooked up but due to cultural differences I told him I didn't want to date him. At that point he hooked me in and told me that he wanted to date me if I wanted to and that he wished that we could get married someday. He said that I would always be close to his heart. Well, since he said all of that stuff I started dating him. We were inseparable and spent all of our time together. We even planned a vacation to Europe in March.Last week he broke up with me. He told me that he had a "feeling" that he didn't see me in his future. He didn't give me a straight answer and just told me about his "feeling." He said he didn't feel love. He said he wanted to be friends and still wanted to go to valentine's day dinner as "friends." He even said he wanted to still go on the Europe trip.Since I liked him at this point I said we couldn't go to Vday dinner. At work he would still text me for lunch. He just told me that he didn't want to go to Europe with me. I am devastated. I feel so hurt I can't even function these days. How does one go from hanging out all the time to not hanging out at all. I don't even think I can be friends with him because it would be a constant reminder of that love I felt for him. My question is how does one get over something like this? I see him at work and have to work with him sometimes. It's so hard! I miss him and he is absolutely certain that he doesn't see a future with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): Ugh, the dreaded go to work with your ex dilemma! Don't EVER get involved with people you work with... :( I'm sorry you have to experience this...ok so hang out with other people, focus on your job. Take some time off, be happy and cheerful, it drives them nuts to think you'll be ok without him. Good luck! XoxoxoX
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